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20 Dec 2011, 9:35 pm

There's an Asperger's social group I go to regularly. Most of the people I can get along with fine, but there is this recent member who just gets on my nerves. I try to ignore him, since I understand that everything about him that annoys me is probably caused by his Asperger's.

However, at the last outing, he made an incredibly insensitive "joke" about his single status, in which he said that we should send any single girls we meet his way.

I can put up with this guy's attempts at being maybe a little too social with the group members, but that statement really hit a sore spot for me and I made sure it let him know that it was not a statement I found all that funny.

Again, I understand that this is all just a result of his Asperger's, but it's still a statement that I just can't get out of my mind.



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20 Dec 2011, 10:42 pm

What exactly did he say? That sounds like an NT joke to me.



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20 Dec 2011, 11:02 pm

I'd be ticked off as well.


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21 Dec 2011, 12:26 am

SPKx wrote:
There's an Asperger's social group I go to regularly. Most of the people I can get along with fine, but there is this recent member who just gets on my nerves. I try to ignore him, since I understand that everything about him that annoys me is probably caused by his Asperger's.

However, at the last outing, he made an incredibly insensitive "joke" about his single status, in which he said that we should send any single girls we meet his way.

I can put up with this guy's attempts at being maybe a little too social with the group members, but that statement really hit a sore spot for me and I made sure it let him know that it was not a statement I found all that funny.

Again, I understand that this is all just a result of his Asperger's, but it's still a statement that I just can't get out of my mind.


Being social might be very new to him. Perhaps you can find a way to phrase things as to offer him constructive advice on how to determine the social boundaries of others.



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21 Dec 2011, 12:50 am

Don't take it personally, he has a lot to learn.


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21 Dec 2011, 4:39 am

I don't understand what was wrong with his joke. Maybe I am that socially inept too :?



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21 Dec 2011, 5:41 am

I don't get it. What's the problem?



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21 Dec 2011, 8:59 am

Just sounds like a trypical crude joke.


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27 Dec 2011, 10:58 am

Is that all he said? I've heard that a million times. It's never seemed that odd to me. Just a guy being an egghead.



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27 Dec 2011, 9:19 pm

"There is no humour in Asperger's. There is no fun in Asperger's."



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28 Dec 2011, 12:13 am

You got offended by that? Seriously? I am still trying to see how that could be offensive.



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28 Dec 2011, 1:30 am

Could you provide a bit more context? As presented, I'm not sure I see the problem.


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29 Dec 2011, 9:44 am

Just sounds like banter to me. I'm sure he didn't mean to offend anyone.


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30 Dec 2011, 6:15 pm

Is it offensive because you have difficulty finding a girlfriend? Other then that possiblitity, i don't understand what the problem is. Please explain so i may be able to help.



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30 Dec 2011, 6:45 pm

Just sounds like a cheesy joke a single guy would make. There are NT's who make jokes like that as well.



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30 Dec 2011, 10:19 pm

The only thing offensive about that joke is the fact that it's not funny. It sounds like a typical thing an NT guy would say at a party at which point everyone else laughs and I don't know if they really think it's funny or they're faking it. Stupid banter.