My Aspie friend is making me uncomfortable.

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I'm an Aspie too, but my friend's seriously creeping me out. She's nice, but she's just too weird. She keeps on leaning her head on my shoulder and rubbing her head on me. Today was worse because she poked my arse and realized I not only HATE being poked there, I'm also very ticklish so she kept on doing it! She even pretended she was going to breastfeed from me....
She's supposed to be higher functioning than me so no one believes me when I say she's acting weird. I was friends with her since 6th grade and it wasn't nearly as bad. I'm really worried, she's freaking me out AND everyone thinks I'm cheating on my girlfriend. I told her to stop so many times but she said I'm just worrying about things too much. I have no idea what to do, she won't listen to me about this being sexual harrassment.

Are you in college? If so, look at your school handbook--there should be a part that talks about sexual harassment and how it's all evil and punishable by death and stuff...but its definition will probably include something saying that anything that makes the recipient uncomfortable can be considered sexual harassment. It's enough to get people kicked out--there's a zero tolerance policy. I had to learn this because I'm kind of in her situation; I accidentally sexually harass people sometimes, and they don't like it. I don't like it either; it gets me in trouble and causes people to tell lies about me. In fact, the reason I clicked on this topic is because I was afraid one of my friends had posted it! I think I made him uncomfortable today.

Are you laughing when you tell her to stop? This might confuse her and make her think you're just pretending like Neurotypicals do--that's what confuses me. Don't laugh, and tell her you DON'T LIKE IT. You may need to yell to get your point across. Also, if she's lactating, I can completely understand why she would want make fun of breastfeeding you--I'm lactating (for no good reason) and I can't tell you how many times I've thought of collecting the white stuff in a water bottle, telling my friends it's "banana drink," and tricking them into drinking it! They would be so mad if I did that...which is why it would be funny. But I don't want to get in trouble and I also want them to stay friends with me. Maybe I should do it to someone I don't like...yes, I've picked my target...

Another thing I've noticed is that your friend seems kind of at the creepiness level I was at in late middle school/early high school. She will probably grow out of it.

Also, there is no such thing as "too weird."

Well if you tell her to stop but she keeps doing if, that's pretty much harrasment. If she's you're friend she should respect that you don't want her doing that sort of thing and also explain why.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

"Please respect my boundaries. I respect yours, because I value you as a friend. Whether or not mine are reasonable is not going to change them, and being friends means accepting people for who they are."