dianthus wrote:
If they don't know how sensitive I am, they're not really my friend. A real friend would take the time and attention to notice that.
Perhaps I am misunderstanding this (or over-thinking it, which is most likely). I read it as you saying it is the other person's responsibility to notice things about you, and that if they don't notice, then they are not really your friend. If that is not what you were intending to convey, then I apologize.
I disagreed with it based on how I read it, because I have known people to be really dense and inattentive, but they were still good friends. I also was thinking about how I've personally had to learn to remember that not everyone knows what I'm thinking or feeling, because I'm bad about sharing it and I tend to hold it in and fake enjoying myself a lot. For instance, I have a best friend that knows I don't like going to new places, but she does know that I will tend to still try to make an effort, and in many cases I will come around to liking it. If she invites me somewhere new, and I don't share with her that I'm feeling uncomfortable after giving it a fair attempt, that doesn't mean she's not being a good friend for wanting to stay and ignoring my discomfort. I don't feel like she is ignoring my discomfort as much as I am not being a good friend by expressing it.