Social Dynamics.

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For those of you who don't know me. My forum name is John Connor *not my real name*. I am 32 years old as of today. I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome in 2006 by a clinical psychologist. Since then I have dedicated my entire life to repairing the damage caused by being undiagnosed for 26 years. Likewise I have also dedicated my life to self development in every way imagineable. So far I have had what I guess to be a considerable amount of success.


Now I wish to share what I have learned about being social with the Neurotypic. The N.T. does not like to befriend other individuals unless you and the N.T. share a formula I like to call C.E.I.
Commonality
Empathy
Interest

Do you have something in common with this person. Do you see the situation that someone was in, do you have a similar experience. Do you and the other person share an interest.


So with that in mind: I am currently working on finishing my bachelors degree at the University of Cincinnati. I have looked into various student organizations in order to learn how to make friends. So far I have found one that I really like which is a backpacking and mountaineering club. The group has high quality people and the women are not too bad on the eyes either. Then I took a look at the College Democrats. Again high quality passionate people but not alot of commonality there beyond politics. Especially not with the extremists. Even though being an extremist can be fun. Plus I can probably charm a cutie or two in there. With each of these groups I tend to keep my distance and I don't really go towards them, rather I just concentrate on making myself the type of person that leaves a good impression on people. Not too hard to do.


Still plugging away though. Wish I could type more but right now I have work to do.

Happy Birthday, JohnConner.

Although, why doesn't today's date match the date you have listed as your b-day on your profile page?

EDIT: Oh, I get it. Today's not your birthday, but you are just saying that you are 32 today in case someone reads your post at a later date after you've aged, right? I'm confused.

I agree that having an activity based interaction that is centred around a special interest is a great way for us to socialise.
Any more strategies or tips you have on managing aspergers generally and social interaction would be fantastic.

Particulary how do you charm the "cuties"? I can socialise to some extent and much better when centred around an activity or interest that I enjoy, random socialising is much harder and flirting is pretty much impossible, when I was younger and cuter it was easier. Obviously you are male but what do you see works for either males or females best for this?

keep the advice coming

thanks

I use the internet and correspondence courses that are based in self improvement. I'm really not in a position to give advice yet but I'm not working on it.