When do I say hi?

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So, I'm new on here.
This is my first topic.
So, say that I met someone, and I talked to them once or twice—I'm not sure on the protocol of seeing them in the halls. Should I say hi to them, even if I just talked to them once or twice? When do I say hi, or do I not say it at all, or am I being rude if I don't?
Also, when I see someone across the hall and they see me, I don't know what to do. I don't know if I say hi right when I see them or if they get closer. Or if I should ignore them until they're close enough to pass by, then say hi.

I hope I explained this right. Any help is greatly appreciated.

I don't know either.

My tactic, when I see someone I recognize, is to look completely clueless and lost in my own thoughts, and nod very lightly when we get nearer. That way, if they reciprocate, it was okay; if they don't, well, I didn't commit myself to anything. Besides, I generally am lost in my thoughts to start with, so it isn't a big act.

Providing a look in their general direction with a slight smile is usually okay.

Try to assess how well you got along with the other person...if your interaction went well, feel free to slightly smile and wave.

This has been a challenge to me. But, I think that so many people are used to even strangers saying hi to them, that it is fine to say hi to someone as long as they are in your vicinity. It kind of makes you seem friendly. You don't want to hesitate too long though saying hi.

Just my personal opinion.

One thing that is acceptable for guys to do is a head nod. If you know someone well or if you are only acquaintances, don't think that would work for girls though

This is something I still struggle with a lot. I have found though that a more aggressive approach is usually the best in this situation though. What I mean by that is, if you have talked to someone once or twice, and you see them again, by all means say hello to them and perhaps try to start up a conversation. I've found that people seem to expect this, and have responded better when I've done it than when I haven't. If you're just passing by them in a hall then I'd say wait until you're within speaking distance and just say a quick "Hi, how are you?" as you pass.

I, like everyone else whose posted before me, am not entirely sure. However, one must tread carefully in this terrain as one wrong facial expression can make someone turn on you. I've had many people tell me stories about someone not reacting properly to their response and being weirded out or they grow a dislike for that individual.

So, what I propose as a safety protocol is to smile in their general direction. Or, you can do a "subtle" wave, close to your body so if they dont notice/respond to you its not awkward and if they do look at you at the last moment you still appear hospitable. I've accidentally called out "hi" or "hello" only for them not to hear me, ignore me, or be caught off guard.

Soo much strategy involved for such a small gesture!