Falsely accused of sarcasm

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Have you ever stated a simple fact with no hidden meaning and been told to stop being sarcastic?

Just today I was walking with a friend who was smoking and he said "Sorry for blowing smoke in your face just then",to which I said "That's alright I didn't notice" because I hadn't.His reply was "Ah, I see you've mastered sarcasm then".

Of course in this situation,stating that you weren't being sarcastic only makes matters worse as that sounds even more sarcastic.I'm sure other people must have stories like this.

This has happened to me so much that I no longer care. I simply say no sarcasm was intended. If they don't believe you, they must feel that they deserve a little sarcasm! The person smoking must be feeling uncomfortable with his habit so he projected that discomfort on to you.

Yes, I've been accused of this alot.

What gets me is when people firmly think they "know" all about ASDs
- Someone once said to me "But you are sarcastic sometimes. People with autism can't be sarcastic. They don't understand it.".. I tried to explain that it's that people with ASD often have trouble picking up on OTHER people's sarcasm, but most are fully capable of using it, on top of commonly being misunderstood as using it when they are not.

I am occasionally told that I am saying something in a sarcastic manner when I am not. This generally happens when I think of some side issue, related to what I just said and smile or laugh a little (unconsciously). Sometimes it is because the person disbelieves what I just said.

Far more often I am accused of being smart-Alec when I respond literally to a sarcastic statement.

It's happened to me before and I wonder if it's possible to be sarcastic and not even know it?

According to Merriam-Webster sarcasm is
"1 : a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2 a: a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual b : the use or language of sarcasm "

I do not think you can be accidentally sarcastic, as sarcasm depends on your intent. The intent to say something in a way to give pain through the use of irony. I misunderstand sarcasm because I take the words at face value which is usually opposite of the meaning when sarcasm is used. Sarcasm says one thing, means the opposite with the intent to hurt. In spoken language the speaker lets the audience know that sarcasm is being used based on the tone of voice, but I do not hear the difference very often.

Irony is easier if it is a situational irony, and because irony does not always rely on the tone of voice to let people know that you are being ironic. Now I think that you can say something that could be ironic if you do not realize the difference between what you said and reality allowing the difference to be ironic.

I have never been falsely accused of using sarcasm.

I usually have the opposite problem. I often express myself sarcastically, but am so straight faced that people take me seriously. Of course there is a certain humor value in getting people to take me seriously.