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If you tell someone about something and they move to a different topic without responding to your sharing information, can that mean that they don't like what you said? What kinds of signs would there be that they are not bored but actually don't like what you said. And lets assume you didn't say something negative, but just were sharing information like a class you are taking.

In my opinion, neither of those reasons.

I think that usually a change of topic of (verbal) conversation, without addressing your point, is a result of you having triggered their memory of some event or anecdotal story with some keywords that you mentioned in your own point.

The "listener" is more overwhelmed by his own memory of something that you just reminded him of through a couple of keywords, rather then any conscious desire to change topic.

I doubt it means they don't like what you said. Most likely they're trying to move the conversation on to a new tangent or topic, which is a natural and normal part of conversation. If you've been talking a while and it the topic change seems abrupt, consider the possibility that you may have missed some cues that the conversation should take a new turn and the person is now redirecting it forcefully (taking their turn in the "give and take" of a conversation).

I sometimes get annoyed by this, but I agree with the above. I think a lot of people are more likely to keep moving a conversation forward, which means it doesn't stay directly on any one topic, but flows from one topic to another to another. It annoys me, because I have a harder time changing topics with them, and if I still had thoughts about a previous topic, my brain has a hard time letting those thoughts go, so it's a bit of an internal struggle for me to sometimes keep up. Most of the time I can, but sometimes, I just get frustrated by the "flow" of the conversation, as it feels more like tumultuous waves crashing over me, instead of smooth sailing. (I love metaphors.)

If an NT changes the topic it probably means that the conversation is just small talk. A big difference between NTs and Auties is that while we talk to convey information NTs talk to convey social cues, in small talk the topic is unimportant. When I'm talking to two or more NTs at the same time I'm often locked out as the topic jumps around. The person you were talking to probably didn't mean any offense, they probably just didn't realize you had more to say.

The situation was a little different from a conversation. I was meeting with an advisor. I've heard the way she talks to other people and it seems really different from the way she talks to me, in general. But this time also, I mentioned my work with another professor twice and it was like she didn't hear it. There was a pause and then she asked me a new question. It really seemed like a point where she should have at least said it's nice that I'm doing this work, especially because I'm pretty sure the way I mentioned it showed I was excited about it. I got the feeling there was something going on here, such as that she didn't like the fact that I'm working with my professor or that there is something more general going on between the two of them.

It could be. Or it could be that they just have something they really want to talk about. Conversations naturally change topics like mercury. Sometimes we have a lot information that we never get to use. Deal with it, at least until the same conversation comes up at a later time.

I'm not sure saying "they didn't like" is the right word. It could just be that they don't know how to respond. Without knowing what you said it's kind of hard to contextualize.