When to keep it going and when to call it quits?

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Okay, I'm just gonna say while I do have friends and did wind up struggling a bit to get the amount I have, I admit to there still being troubles. For me, it's never that I don't acquire friends, but that I have a hard time keeping them, especially when it comes to long periods of not talking. It's problematic on the internet, because sometimes I want to catch up with some people I haven't seen in a while, but the message ends up falling flat. Anyone else experience something similar to this?

Well, one thing to remember first is that if someone is truly your friend, you won't have to endlessly pursue them, they will reach out to you as well. You can say that friendship (or any relationship for that matter) is based on mutual interest between two people. Whoever is your frield should have some kind of interest in you and would want to reach out to you and be there for you. If you go a period without talking, and they forget you and rebuff your attempts to reach out, then they aren't really your friend. That may be the core of your problem; you are believing that your ties to these people are stronger than they really are.

Unanswered is a key tool of the NT in avoiding awkward social situations.

I generally equate unanswered with rebuked unless evidence exists they truly didn't get the message.

I do find friendships can be cyclical. Sometimes they will be hot, sometimes cold.