Feeling lonely after moving

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I know it will sound dumb, especially to a NT, but I recently moved about an hour and a half drive away from my hometown to the city. I had to leave my childhood home and the convenience of having my friends down the road from me. Now, I feel like I did in high school, an aspie loser. I spend my day all the time on the internet and I hate the annoyance of driving on the highway to hang with my friends. Hell, that is not an even option now because my dumbass got in trouble with the law so my dad is keeping the car away from me and I possibly might get my license restricted after the trial. Would be a different story if I still lived close to my friends, but I live an hour and a half away.

All the social perks that took me 17 years to achieve in my hometown have been blown away. For the last two years, I have been meeting new people, attending parties, and just making strides to improve my life socially. Also I've been working with community college, but now my comm college education has been disrupted and I don't have friends close by. I just feel trapped in this situation.

I can understand moving out of your parents house; but I'm curious why you had to give up your friends?

Could you have moved out but stayed local?

I'm sorry, there is a misunderstanding here. I didn't even move out from my parents' house, they moved and I was still living with them (19 so I'm not that old) so I got dragged along because I couldn't even handle a job with my obviously lacking social skills. Yeah only a failure aspie would be stuck in such a horrible situation. They have every right to move, but my life has just fallen apart. My friends and social life were keeping me going on and without them, I just feel like a pointless aspie. Sorry, my self-esteem has been destroyed through middle and high school so I do put more importance on friends then I should, that and I also never foresaw this move happening.

My plan was to finish up comm college and then move out, but now I'm forced to deal with it in an unfamiliar environment and the change of house is also getting to me. I am trying to get over, but I'm too stuck on the past. Also I'm miserable when I visit my friends because I'm depressed over the fact that I no longer have the convenience of living down the street from them. After a day of chilling, I loved being able to come home and have my alone time, but my house is now a freakin' drive away.

My dad and me get along horribly. I'm an aspie with mindblindness and he is a NT who has no idea how to handle a aspie child so we make a horrible combination. All he does is scream at me and then I have a meltdown on him... oh and we live in a townhouse now so the neighbors get to enjoy our screaming. Back before the move, I have not had a meltdown since high school (back when my life sucked) and my relationship with the parents was fine. As long as I got away from them, all was good.

It seems like something positive could come out of this "forced" move. If you'd moved into a bigger city, there's a good chance you could meet more like minds like yourself. Imagine. A new world of aspies. Some potential there, no?

The quotation marks aren't necessary.

Of course, there is potential, I realize it, but my self-doubt is too great. But I certainly will try to adjust for it is my only option.

Guess I'm adjusting or something. Meh.

go back to the same place then and live on your own since your friends are nearby probably you could live with them.

I've had a similar experience. I generally don't like the people who live here. I'm lonely but I don't feel right being with the people who live here. I'm feeling for you.