meeting people from online?

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I've gotten many different opinions on this. I wanted to know what is yours? If a person wants to communicate with random people via private messaging based on interests and maybe try to meet them in a public place if they are in the same area, is this okay to do in an NT forum or an aspie forum (if they should even be separated?) Most people seem to not respond, a few seem pleasant enough that they don't feel intruded on, but then there's always that one or two that think about how it might be a love thing or a spammer. Doesn't seem like there'd be anything wrong with this as long as you're not writing like 27 messages a day, and that you're explaining yourself if there are questions or accusations about something. What do you think?

I've had a bit of experience with this myself. Really, you can't control what another person thinks, especially when we're talking about online scenarios. In this case, you've sent out an invitation in hopes of connect further. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I think doing it on a forum is a good idea, but be prepared to have some of your messages go unanswered

Personally, I'd say go for it. You may connect with someone you have alot in common with; maybe you won't. You won't know until you put yourself out there.

I would say go for it, but be cautious.

Aim to meet up with people who are around your age. A significantly older person wishing to meet you should perhaps set off some alarm bells and I would avoid anyone who is considered a minor where you live (unless you are also a minor). While your intentions may of course be completely innocent and above board, other people may not see it that way.

Take some time to get to know the person first, and always meet in a public place and don't go anywhere with them until you are sure. Sometimes people with Aspergers don't have the same 'instincts' that an NT person has which makes it harder to read people and understand their intentions and for this reason I think perhaps we should be more cautious than NT people. I think it's also important that you are clear about what you want (friendship or love) so that people have an idea what your expectations are. There is a friendship sticky at the top of this forum, you could start off with a post in there.

I've only met one person that I knew online, and we had talked for around a year before that. He died less than a year later so I was glad I'd had the chance to meet him.

I once met someone on a website with lots of mutiplayer java games, a drawing game of all things. It escalated to MSN, then to MSN webcamsex, then to IRL meeting up and just going at it. If you just click with a person, then I see no harm in it, people meet everywhere. Go for it!