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12 Aug 2012, 2:13 pm

"Just go wherever you can go and don't worry too much about being awkward.
You will automatically start to compensate(If you are not busy with thinking about you how stupid you are or that kind of crap)
Just flowing along with others is pretty easy (for me)."

courtesy of another thread on here.


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12 Aug 2012, 2:19 pm

The hardest part is putting it into practice...



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12 Aug 2012, 2:31 pm

Yeah, that's the way to go but you have to make sure that you do it which is usually what makes it tricky for some aspies.



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14 Aug 2012, 1:10 pm

Heh. I've tried that. Mostly I've found that *trying* not to worry about being awkward is like trying not to think about winged pink elephants. :)



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14 Aug 2012, 3:46 pm

See that doesnt really work for me. Im very introverted, so if I just go, do my thing and not think anything about socialization then I just dont socialize. See I spent 9 years being selectively mute so I dont exactly know what happen with my brain wiring in the social realm. I used to think it was a huge issue with anxiety and part of it is but then I also realized my brain is not really wired to naturally socialize. See NTs typically default towards some sorta socialization. My brain defaults towards not* socializing so I kinda have to make it socialize in a way.



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14 Aug 2012, 8:57 pm

Ai_Ling wrote:
See that doesnt really work for me. Im very introverted, so if I just go, do my thing and not think anything about socialization then I just dont socialize. See I spent 9 years being selectively mute so I dont exactly know what happen with my brain wiring in the social realm. I used to think it was a huge issue with anxiety and part of it is but then I also realized my brain is not really wired to naturally socialize. See NTs typically default towards some sorta socialization. My brain defaults towards not* socializing so I kinda have to make it socialize in a way.


Me too. Except I wasn't selectively mute.


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16 Aug 2012, 1:06 am

This works for a while until you realize everyone finds you annoying and weird and doesn't really like you.