Alone, but not lonely?

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Does the title describe anyone else here?

I find that I am much happier by myself than I am with other people. When I'm alone, I can do whatever I want, but when I'm with people, they might not like the same things as me, and then I get bored with them.

I have been lonely at times in the past, so it's not completely foreign to me, but I am much more often overwhelmed by people (or bored with them and itching to do something that catches my fancy).

Yes definitely.

Also, I like being alone but I don't like being lonely. I want friends because I don't want to be lonely, but I don't want to hang out with them that often.

For the most part, I do very well alone(or in the company of solely my wife).

However, there are times every now and again when I do feel the need to socialize in some way. For that, I have a few of what I call "low upkeep friends." every now and again one of us will call and ask the other if we should just spend time watching movies on the couch. We can each come and go as we please from the social situation. It's worked quite well for me.

Alone and lonely. This is my fate in life.

Do you guys think I might have a personality disorder or something? It really worries me that very few people seem to be able to relate to me in this way. I'm more likely to have the urge to get AWAY from people, rather than the urge to be WITH them. I'm like rebbieh in that I have friends and I enjoy being with them sometimes, but I don't want to see them that often.

I'm comfortable this way, so my worrying is due mainly to the fact that so few people seem to be able to relate with me :/ I've asked this elsewhere and I don't remember getting a lot of affirmative answers there, either.

I related to that a lot & I think lots here would. Lots of us had bad experiences with others; being bullied, problems fitting in ect. We tend to dislike or have problems with NT chat-chat, we like predictability & NTs aren't, we have our special interest & not like typical NT things. It makes sense to me that some would like being alone. I defiantly did as a kid; I was so overwhelmed from school & teachers, & my parents that I wanted everyone to leave me the hell alone. I was diagnosed with Schizoid Personality instead of AS because I was an extreme loner but I'm pretty sure that is somewhat related to my Aspie issues & my psychs missed the root cause.

I can't stand being alone, unless I am talking to someone on the phone or something. I like being around people or talking to people.

I never used to get lonely but for some reason, I've started to over the last couple of years. I don't like being in the house on my own all the time but at the same time, I don't like being around people for more than a few hours at a time unless it's in a situation where I know what's going to happen and how long I'm spending with them, like at work or arranging to meet at a certain time. Although when I'm with certain people, the time doesn't seem to matter and I end up spending way too much time talking to them and only realise when they say they've got to go and by then I've annoyed them. Need to work on a balance...

I love being alone and being by myself there is no dramas, no problems, no stress and no socializing with anyone Yes! I can concentrate on my interests which is building my model airplanes, watching my airplane documentries, reading my airplane books and magazines, read my david eddings books, play my xbox, draw, listen to music, go on the internet and watch movies and documentries. I find the less you know the better it is when it comes to dramas, situations, problems and friends fighting with each other having another sim card, mobile phone number and not being on facebook at all, I have deactivated my facebook and I have no interest in getting back on facebook ever again.

i spiral down deep into depression if left alone for longer period
i do need a bit of social interaction from time to time
just someone to share my emotions with
other then that too much interaction, social gatherings bogs me down.

I asked my dad one time years ago about how he didn't seem to have any friends, and didn't he get lonely? He used those exact words "I'm alone but not lonely." At the time I didn't know what he meant, but now I TOTALLY get it. And agree -- I'd much rather spend time alone than with people. And if I have to be with people for any length of time, I need time to be alone to decompress. Most of my family -- Dad obviously excepted -- are social butterflies and don't understand at all.

I only want friends so I can do activity's that require more than one person. like rock climbing or offroading I have a lot of interest that require a group.

With people I lost my soul, but when alone, seems everything just come back. But sometimes the problem is, interaction with people seems unavoidable.

Yes, most of the time.
On occassion, though, it's good to share ideas with people, even if you have to go through the boring ones first...

Hi Morningstar, yes I am the same way. Sometimes I am disturbed that I have very little desire for social contact (if any). I do have some friends but like another poster said, I don't really like hanging out with them that often. I tend to keep very busy with projects, not to distract myself from being alone, but more like an OCD type thing where I have all these things I need to do all the time and they are not really social (e.g. clean my fish tanks, work on websites that I maintain, etc.).

I don't like spending time with people without doing something I find worthwhile so I spend most of my time alone doing what I want when I want and I haven't felt lonely for as long as I can remember. Those few I think of as my friends understand this about me and has come to accept that I have no interest in doing things I think are boring, unnecessary or frivolous.
I am my own best friend, and as long as I can think from more then one point of view I will never lack stimulating "conversation". I can almost always just think about things that interest me and have a better time than if I spent it with someone.

I sometimes think that those who feel lonely are trying to fill some need they have that they themselves cannot fill, which in my opinion only shows that they should get to know themselves better. I don't think using external sources to satisfy an internal need can be a long-term solution. Though this is only a speculation, since I don't really know how it feels to be lonely.