so i removed my origional post by request but now i'm putting it back with some extra stuff so
if you have seen it before skip ahead to the new part
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So here's the story
i met the girl in question via a dating site and after working up the courage to talk to her was glad to find that we seemed to get on well.
we briefly exchanged emails for about a week then she got a boyfriend and broke off contact with me because she did not feel right still talking with me while seeing him.
six days later she got back in contact with me because she had broken up with him because she felt that it just would not work with them living in different country's and we continued to talk to each other for about a month and a half to two months.
i felt we got to be good friends in that time and we were getting on really well she even said that if she did get a new boyfriend that she would not cut off contact with me again and he would just have to understand.
a short while in to that she sent an email saying that she was not interested in dating at that time and she wanted to be single for now, at the time i just thought that was what she meant but in reality she had gotten back together with her boyfriend.
anyway near the end of the month and a half of talking to each other my grandma got really sick and had to have a pacemaker fitted, it had not been a good week and i said as much to her.
she got in contact that day and talked with me in a chat for a couple of hours and really cheered me up.
the next day she sent an email saying that she had gotten back together with him and saying we should only talk once a month.
i can obviously see that she told her boyfriend and he was seeing me as a threat to him and so making her push me away and it was obvious that if i allowed it it would end with me losing my only friend so i tried my best to not allow that to happen.
eventually though she forced me to chose to limit my contact to her or just break it off.
i told her that the absolute least i could do was one email a week and i would not accept talking to her less then that, after that she blocked my email.
i did not take it well, i mean my only friend was ripped away from me by someone who just did not understand.
I'll admit that i over reacted sending her a message saying i was going to kill myself was totally out of line but as i said the only person who had ever understood me, the best friend i have ever had and the only friend i have now was taken from me completely unfairly.
her brother returned the email and i started talking to him and her and we had a brief talk on a chat, he gave me some things to think about, one of which was to join this sites forums and i said i need time to think and we agreed to meet again the next day at 2pm.
neither of them showed up the next day and i panicked a bit and eventually the brother got in contact with me and told me that their parents had advised them not to keep in contact with me.
so now both her boyfriend and her parents are saying to her to break contact with me and her brother tells me she has decided to do just that.
the parents reason for this is that they think i have some kind of deep seated friendship issues that need to be sorted out when in reality the only problem i have is my friend being taken from me in such an underhanded way.
the brother tho has still kept in touch with me and is giving me advice on how to move on and all.
but i really have to ask all of you am i wrong in wanting my friend back?
why do i have to suffer this way all because of some guy seeing me as a threat to his relationship with her?
why do her parents immediately judge me so harshly without bothering to get all the facts?
as a last bit of information both myself and her boyfriend are aspies and she is high functioning autistic.
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and now the new part i was contacted by the brother and asked to change parts of the post so that it read like this
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So here's the story
i met the girl in question via a dating site and after working up the courage to talk to her was glad to find that we seemed to get on well.
we briefly exchanged emails for about a week then she got a boyfriend and broke off contact with me because she did not feel right still talking with me while seeing him.
six days later she got back in contact with me because she had broken up with him because she felt that it just would not work and we continued to talk to each other for about a month and a half to two months.
i felt we got to be good friends in that time and we were getting on really well she even said that if she did get a new boyfriend that she would not cut off contact with me again and he would just have to understand.
a short while in to that she sent an email saying that she was not interested in dating at that time and she wanted to be single for now.
anyway near the end of the month and a half of talking to each other my grandma got really sick.
she got in contact that day and talked with me in a chat for a couple of hours and really cheered me up.
the next day she sent an email saying that she had gotten back together with him and saying we should only talk once a month.
i can obviously see that she told her boyfriend and he was seeing me as a threat to him and so making her push me away and it was obvious that if i allowed it it would end with me losing my only friend so i tried my best to not allow that to happen.
eventually though she forced me to chose to limit my contact to her or just break it off.
i told her that the absolute least i could do was one email a week and i would not accept talking to her less then that, after that she blocked my email.
i did not take it well, i mean my only friend was ripped away from me by someone who just did not understand.
I'll admit that i over reacted sending her a message saying i was going to kill myself was totally out of line but as i said the only person who had ever understood me, the best friend i have ever had and the only friend i have now was taken from me completely unfairly.
her brother returned the email and i started talking to him and we had a brief talk on a chat, he gave me some things to think about, one of which was to join this sites forums and i said i need time to think and we agreed to meet again the next day at 2pm.
he did no show up the next day and i panicked a bit and eventually he got in contact with me and told me that their parents had advised them not to keep in contact with me.
so now both her boyfriend and her parents are saying to her to break contact with me and her brother tells me she has decided to do just that.
the parents reason for this is that they think i have some kind of deep seated friendship issues that need to be sorted out when in reality the only problem i have is my friend being taken from me in such an underhanded way.
the brother tho has still kept in touch with me and is giving me advice on how to move on and all.
but i really have to ask all of you am i wrong in wanting my friend back?
why do i have to suffer this way all because of some guy seeing me as a threat to his relationship with her?
why do her parents immediately judge me so harshly without bothering to get all the facts?
as a last bit of information i am an aspie
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and thats pretty much what they wanted it changed to, i choose instead to delete it after i pointed out that they basicly wanted me to edit the post in such a way that it removes all the reasons i did anything and so that it paints me as some kind of irrational crazy person.
needless to say i was slightly annoyed by this but i deleted it and was waiting to find out the reason why however now the brother has emailed and said that he will now cut contact as well without even giving an explanation as to why they wanted me to remove the post.
i am very upset right now
your thoughts?
31 Oct 2012, 2:49 pm
