Why are people so mean today?

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I know; it's sad for me. I seem to be 'snake-bitten' because my social skills are bad. Why?

1) Some people tend to get off on me for no good reason.;
2) I hate to say this, but I have lost friendships because I was too 'desperate', as in wanting to date her when they are not interested. *sob*
3) I tend to be seen by some people like I am some sort of maniac..... like those two baddies I mentioned because I tend to be stalker-ish at times; this is mostly because I really don't know how to socialize well.

So what can I to prevent this? I feel so sad, this is my ruination!

They do have meetup groups for all types on the internet. There's even one for us aspies. Look into those. You never know. You might meet someone with a like mind.

Thanks. I feel like I am all alone in my personal bubble.

You might want to try setting clear boundaries for your relationships. When you're like us, it's far too easy to lose a good friendship because you think it has the potential to be more.

I tend to label someone a friend or a romantic interest fairly quickly, and then I can focus on the social behavior that best fits. You'll still get rejected more than you'd like, but it won't be the end of a friendship.

I see.....

Uh oh, watch where you say that word, someone might tell you to "grow up."

^ This is true and a good point. It's more confusing if you try to figure out the other person's boundaries without asking or without setting the boundary yourself.



I haven't studied this much, but off the top of my head I think this is how most NTs do it naturally. It fits in with the instant threat/benefit potentials assessment that NTs do without thinking about it.

There's something called the Ladder Theory that says that all hetero women have a "men who are friends" and a "men who are friends but also possible romantic partners" categories. According to this theory, hetero men have only one category, which is "women who are friends but also possible romantic partners". I believe that there is something to this because men have a habit of using special language and manners around women to show that they ARE or ARE DEFINITELY NOT trying to be romantic, which tells me that they're thinking about it one way or the other.

So anyway, I think that aspies (especially aspie men) tend to have trouble with this complicated language and special manners that go with talking to people as "friends but also possible romantic partners". I think it's better to do what LukeinOntario says and divide it into friends and possible romantic partners.

Or you can become a rock star and then you don't have to worry about women rejecting you.

Those two 'baddies' in question are Casey Anthony and Jerry Sandusky. I know; it's because some people see me that way because of my poor social skills.

I was joking. Someone from here, a former friend of mine, told me to grow up because I used that word and they said it sounds like something a six year old would say.

I see.