Drama on FB and possible cyber bullying

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Hi:

I have been having a squabble with someone on FB since last week. It all started when they asked me how I am doing via messaging by asking me if I was going to an anime meet-up group Halloween Party. I then said that I was going to one for bronies last Saturday night. I was then asked what we all do there and I told them that we eat, dance, have a costume contest and watch some videos. They started asking me "Bronies are furries who like to clop don't they?" I said, "No my friends are not furries and do not clop." They seemed to went argue with me about it by saying that just about every brony that they met was a clopper and that I was not. I then told them if they were go making assumptions and stereotype, then I did not want to talk with them.

They then responded that I did not seem to make a good choice and I could not then he had to make one for me. I said "Oh make me." It was then that I was blocked. So I had attempted to write to him on a second FB page that they seemed to be disrespectful and that they needed to worry about themselves. Then I blocked on my other page.

However, this situation angered them even greater and they unblocked me on my other page just to write back about how I was the one with the problem and how they wished they would have never felt sorry enough to buy me dinner when I first met them at the meet up. They then said that I have a problem with having the last say with people when I am upset.

So I got ahold of my second page and I unblocked and said "I understand you are upset and I accept that. However, please don't write me anymore if you are going to be this angry. I will not write to you if you don't write to me."

Finally, they got ahold of my second page and said that they agreed with me but that again accused me had to have the last say by not listening. They then rubbed it in by going "So this must be your nasty bronies page huh figures?" They then blocked me on my second page.

Yes I may have been in the wrong but I am deciding to keep their comments on file in case I need to forward to the leader of the anime meet-up group. This is because I feel like the other person was wanting to be a cyber bully but I could be wrong too.

So, what do I do when someone acts that ugly?

What is clopping?

To me it sounds like cyberbullying, though.

There is a way to stop cyberbullying:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXHiPadb5Hs[/youtube]
Rather glib, I know.

Was I in anyway in the wrong for responding to him for being ugly or was he finding a way to manipulate me by making fun of my for having the last say?

I deactivated Facebook over a year ago, life is much better without, your true friends will talk to you outside of Facebook and remember your birthday if they are not reminded on Facebook

I had only met this person one time at the anime meet up group over the summer and I was having a bad night and was crying. I also did not have any money to buy dinner. So this person decided to buy my dinner for me which they now regret. As a result, part of me feels bad that I broke down like that which gave them the opportunity. I do want to find out the price of the meal and make sure they get reimbursed while I avoid them. I really don't want to look like I stiffed them.

However, is reimbursing them a good idea or was this a way of trying to manipulate me?

I think this guy is mean and extremely judgemental. Honestly...if you are a brony, people should respect that. I am glad that you are documenting the messages sent by him though, I suggest you send them to your group's leader right away, and hopefully he will get a talking-to.

I know this sounds hard, but continuing to ignore him is the best thing to do in this situation. If you try to get the last word in an argument, you are just prolonging the fight...ending it by not saying anything further keeps this situation civil and out of your mind. If you talk to him any more, he is just going to keep fighting with you. A good idea would be to talk to the meetup leader about him and see what should be done in this situation.

I don't think it would be a good idea to bring up reimbursement right away with him: wait and see if he is ready to be civil with you first. This may take some time since for now, he just wants to make fun of you.