Failing friendships

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If you have a friendship that fails, most of the time is it your fault?

When somebody befriends me, which is like once every 2 years, I get too attached to them...such as I try to be their best friend way too quickly. It freaks them out and they turn against me. I try as hard as I can not to let this happen but I just can't control it. In middle and high school they became enemies, but now they just dissasociate with me and avoid me at all cost.

I'm 21 and the exact same thing has happened with everybody since I was 12.

No, it's not my fault. I'm misunderstood by the so-called friends when I say something wrong.

The friendship goes KABOOOM!

I am seldom sure.Sometimes it is,because the relationship takes away to much time from my interests and they want me to do things I find boring or stressful.Sometimes,I think they lose interest in me or I offend them but I am seldom sure what I have done and become obsessed with it.

I once had a friendship end because she wanted me to apologise for "yawning AT her"...I has bronchitis at the time and refused to apologize.I didnt try and save the relationship because I thought she was a manipulative psychotic person.I seem to attract that type of female and end up getting tired of being "used" by them.

It always SEEMS like my fault.

But then I'm hardly judging from a neutral position.

While Aspies do tend to be misunderstood and can behave in confusing ways, I think one of our other problems is that we're far too eager to over-analyse and blame ourselves all of the time.

OH yes. that's the story of my life. How anyone stays around longer than 2 minutes I have no clue.

I get very attached to people, Since the time I was very small all my friendships have failed. I kinda expect it and am not surprised when people cut me off. People dont understand me. I mean, to them I am weird and have a problem. but if they would take the time and get to know the real me. and learn to accept me for me, then it would be different.

I have never had a real best friend. I dont even know what one is. I will call my friends I like my best friends, even a group of 4 I will call them my 4 best friends, but in reality I can't relate to them. it's hard. I am not close to them emotionally. attached to them, yes, but emotionally I am too self absorbed to even understand them. It's like we live in 2 different worlds.

I would love to understand them, yes. I love my friends that i have, But I would like to get a friend someday that will take intrest in what I am interested in. I can't seem to enter into other people's world without messing mine up, and and saying the wrong things and doing the wrong things. But when they enter my world, it's totally different.