being creepy

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I don't know why but for some reason I creep out people. It's been this way when I was little, when I went to Gymnasium, University and now at work. I can tell people are uncomfortable around me even though I don't say anything or do anything wrong and don't get in people's space. During break, I like to watch the other machines and see how they work, but some of the operators seem to be afraid of me. I've been told when I was in school that I remind people of a serial killer. Does anyone else experience this and if so, what should I do to not be the creepy guy?

wish i could help you, dr. dreh, but i am a "creep" also and i can only find solace from that in being a hermit out in the woods. i haven't been able to change how god constructed me. btw, you are my aspie hero for being so well-edumacated and successful in the professional realm.

Sometimes saying nothing makes you creepier, it's weird I know.

If you want to look with interest at something, make your intention known, like say "Hey, mind if I check out these machines in action?" when you're approaching and if anybody catches you interested in something and stares at you I recommend giving them a small smile and saying something like "I find machines fascinating" instead of ignoring them.

It could be the lack of eye contact, if you tend to do that. Might help to try making eye contact more often.

It could be an "expressionless," face if you tend to do that. Might help to smile or look interested/curious - practice these things in front of a mirror so you don't come across as looking even creepier with a forced smile.

It could just be your body language, or lack thereof, if you tend to stand motionless and stare at whatever you're interested in.

It could be the lack of conversation or transparency about what you're doing. People hate being watched while they work, but if they know why you're hanging around and watching something - because you're interested in the machine process - then they're much better able to relax and do their thing vs. feeling nervous because they know you're watching them but they don't know why.

Annnnd it could simply be what you look like. Facial bone structure, eyes, jawline, hair etc. There could be some things you can't change about it, and others you could if you made an effort to - but we'd have to see pics to be able to comment.

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In my experience, subtle little things determine how people react, even if you are just quiet and trying to be nice. It's as if they look at my face when having a conversation, and within a few milliseconds don't see something they expect to see and from then on react in a more distanced way.

I don´t really know. Do you make no/to intense eye contact? Do you make inappropriate comments?

I have the same problem OP, I think its because of my anxiety, because a few years ago no one EVER called me a "creep".

When my anxeity got worst I started getting called that name, which started in my early 20s.

OP been getting called that since he was little