Does lack of interest hold you back from socialising?

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As per the title.

For me, the answer is yes.

Inspired by another post in this section "Does fear hold you back from socialising?"

I can answer for damn near everyone on this forum:

"If they're not into [Insert special interest here] I find it hard to reply to them so I just drift away and never talk to them again."

I hate you all..

Yes. Usually I don't find many people interesting. Its not because they are boring, but because I'm not interested in what they're into.
When I do find someone interesting (very rare these days) fear holds me back from socializing with them.

Oh yes, indeed it does.

It can happen, yes. It is just too hard to talk with some people, and there are times I just feel like "meh, screw socializing, I'm going home for the rest of the day".

Sure. Why would I socialise with a person that I don't like?

Yes.
I find most people to be plain boring, the things most people talk about are boring to me, therefore I'm not interested in socializing with most people.
There are just very few people I know that aren't boring and who don't talk about boring things, and I usually talk and interact with those persons.

I'm afraid of making myself look like a fool infront of other people and them laughing. I'm going to try to socialize soon and this is my biggest fear of all. I don't want to come off as too weird either, I casually have to glide in and out of conversations and have a good story for my past. This is like filling out a job application, you have to make it look good otherwise potential friends get creeped out and move on

Yes, although in this case "hold you back" doesn't really make sense. You can only hold me back if I am trying to move towards it.

If they are talking about something I am not interested in then it is harder.

No, I definitely don't lack interest in socializing. Is that a really prevalent characteristic of autistics? For a while, I've assumed that a good portion of autistics had the same (moderate by normal standards) degree of desire for social relationships as I do, but just had difficulty forming them. Was I wrong?

The only reason I ask is because the psychologist who assessed me for ASD's "ruled out" an ASD diagnosis, for mostly the above reason.

I call myself autistic on here, though. And also with my family. But at school, I intentionally deny it.

As soon as someone mentions sports, my ears shuts off.

Yes, lack of interest in what others talk about often keeps me from socializing. In fact, I don't have much desire to socialize and would be perfectly happy being by myself most of the time but I do get lonely because as I've gotten older my family mostly avoids me. I don't really like "hanging out" with anybody but I would like to live with or near someone who understands and loves me.

I just find socializing to be much too exhausting to do much of. It's not a lack of interest, per se--I just don't like how tired it makes me.

Yes.

I am only interested in social interactions that give me some kind of benefit, tangible or intangible, such as new information, innovative knowledge, positive emotional reaction, material or financial benefit, etc.

If we mutually get nothing out of the interaction, then what is the point? It just becomes a waste of time and effort.

I have interest in interacting with people, I just not in interacting with any of the people i am presented with.