The Aspie "laugh/giggle"--awkwardness? detraction?

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inquiringMind
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03 May 2013, 10:54 pm

I was with my Aspie friend that I hadn't seen in a while.
At one point, we were in a really deep conversation and when looking directly in each other's eyes, I told him that I missed him.
He (sorry to phrase it as such) very robotically repeated exactly what I said and immediately "laughed/giggled" to the point that he turned and stifled his laughter on his arm.

Later, when we were with a group of people and he mentioned that cemeteries were romantic, I noticed that he "laughed/giggled" the same way.

At the end of the night, when we were both headed towards our own homes, he stated that we shouldn't make distance a habit.
I responded something along the lines of "that is ultimately is up to you," and he "laughed/giggled" (almost chortled) with a greater intensity to the point that he not only looked away, but he walked a few steps away.

A laugh is a laugh.
A giggle is a giggle.
But I kind of feel mocked; should I?

I have no reason to say something I don't mean, but if I was being mocked, why would he say (or even repeat) something he didn't mean?

I guess I'm just trying to figure out what his laugh means--I know I certainly laugh different ways for different things.
So again, his reaction--awkwardness?? detraction?? or plain mockery???



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04 May 2013, 2:50 am

I know this guy's situation all too well. I have very high social anxiety, more so with women because I think deep down I'm afraid of them or something.. Yadda yadda relationship with my mom and dad, bla bla bla. Anyway! If I'm forcing myself to talk to someone I really want to talk to I will do what you described quite a bit. I do it for various reasons:

- I might feel anxious and this is the only way to really catch my breath as people usually catch their breath after a laugh.

- I'm afraid that my emotions are getting a little too "much" for me and I laugh at myself or the situation to relieve tension.

- I'm embarassed that I'm in this situation and trying to laugh about it helps me cope.

- I'm upset and trying not to cry or show sadness.

- Or someone could've just insulted me and I'm trying not to cave their eyeballs in with my thumbs.

I don't think he would be mocking you at all. People like us (at least from my experience) tend to be pretty lonely and try to keep the people we see regularly or are comfortable with very close. I doubt he would be so careless as to throw you away like that :).



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04 May 2013, 5:31 am

He's very nervous, he's not trying to mock you.



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04 May 2013, 5:50 pm

I do this too. I laugh at serious things, but luckily people I know are my friends were able to get that I was just nervous before I even knew why I laughed at that kind of thing. They must have met someone else who laughed when they were nervous too.


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