unsure of this situation...

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First of all, i have a serious boyfrind (dating over a year, engagement coming soon).

I also have a really good male friend who i was interested in before i began dating my current boyfriend, but i knew that he was not interested in having a girlfriend (i didn't ask him out or anything, but i knew this from one of our many conversations). He has asperger's and he is the one who suspects that i do too based on our similar characteristics.

Now, here is the problem. I don't know if he has developed a liking for me that is more than just friends now. How do i tell? Maybe i am imagining it, but over the past few days, he seems to be the one approaching me more as opposed to me being the one to approach him to talk. I've never really been able to spot flirting nor really understand it at all. But for example, today after class, he waited for me to come by his seat before he left to go to the next class. It was really obvious he was waiting for me because he kept turning around to check if i was coming. Maybe this is nothing? Friends wait on each too don't they? It's just unusual for him. Yet sometimes he has waited before but he often just walks out and then i will sometimes catch up to him or not. I dk, today just struck me as being different for some reason. For another example, he made an arrow right to me at a BCM meeting afterwards to talk. Most of the time it is me who approaches him to talk. Just seemed like he was really picking me out to talk to instead of it just happening as you socialize with the people in the group or whatnot.

It's highly possible that we are just becoming better friends. That's something that is unusal enough for me bc i don't make friends well or be as close to them as i have to him. And it's a great thing if it's just us being better friends. However, if he is developing something more for me, that is a huge problem. I love my boyfriend very much and would never leave him, and we are planning to spend the rest of our lives together. I don't want to hurt my friend and want very much to always be his friend. I've moved past liking him as something more than a friend, I don't think he ever knew that i did like him. I treasure him very much though, and my boyfriend knows this, knows that i used to like him, and is not jealous. Like i said, i just don't want to hurt anyone.

How do i know for sure if he is flirting with me or just being a good friend? And what do i do if he is growing to like me as something more?

From what your saying seems just like what i am like and i think its more like you are becoming better friends than anything

I have waited for my friends before and when I saw them, what I wanted to tell them, never came out. sometimes i started talking about not feeling well. which was NOT the subject I intended. I wanted to sometimes ask them questions or whatever but NOPE just talked about me.. and me and me somemore.

I attached myself to my friends easily. not that I want to . I would like normal friends, but for an aspie, that is just the way it is. it's frustrating but true.


Maybe he starting to like you more, or is connecting with you even more as a friend.