Who feels like they are much loved in their community?

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I was just wondering how many of you Aspies, feel like you have a strong support network and feel that you have a lot of love and respect in your community?

I have a passable support network and am good at my job, so although i'm not popular, I am respected, even got an award my boss nominated me for.

I'm trespassing here. Only a matter of time before they run me put of town like the Frankenstein monster.

I feel like I have a good sized support group of friends and family that love me.

I feel pitied, rather than loved.

I don't have many friends, but all of them are awesome, so that's a decent support network.

As for how highly I'm regarded; I'm a music teacher, I'm in the local orchestra, and I volunteer, so I'd say I'm a fairly respected member of the community.

I don't have much offline. I'm close to my father and a few old friends, and a few baristas at my favorite coffee shop know me.

I think I have a strong support system that I do not utilize for fear of being too intense and losing my friendships/support system to begin with. Now I have a psychiatrist who is a great added support system who I don't have to worry about losing as a friend because we are not friends, though I do not always have anything scripted to say. Then there was the Friend who turned out not to be a Friend who merely pitied me and saw more wrong with me than was right. After talking to people in my circle I discovered I was not crazy as she made me believe, and discovered that other people were actually in AWE of my growth. I noticed the contrast between someone who just met me and only saw my flaws and where I was now being NOT GOOD ENOUGH vs. the actual support system which who were in awe and amazed at how far I had come in the few years that they had gotten to know me, and who believed I would continue to grow and come farther despite all the hurdles that all people have to jump through.

It's interesting that this support system sees me as more normal than those who would pity me. And while I think I have some few differences, those differences they either say are what makes us human or as one says just means I'm more spiritually evolved than our fellow brethren, and that makes me feel good not bad. So I'm learning that you can have both Good and Bad support.

But as far as people I TALK to regularly, or feel I can call whenever something is wrong without burdening others. I just have me. I'm learning now how to be my own support system out of necessity that my support system consists of only 2-3 people at fixed times, but I'm available to me 24/7...even when I don't want to be near myself at all!