huge anxiety with socialising.

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Tonight I told a friend that I would go to a fund rasier held in a nightclub. The venue is just the nightclub, but I think there will still be loud music and alcohol ect. I really don't feel like going. Sometimes I can be in a social mood and want to socialise (I hate clubs though) but lately all I've wanted to do is stay at home on my own. I'm not depressed, I just enjoy my own company. I feel sick to my stomach about tonight, I know it's going to be ackward, uncomfortable and very anxiety provocing, but I feel like I should go, I let down the few friends I have in real life, a lot it seems, due to anxiety. She will have other friends going too though, if I don't go. I live in a shared flat and it seems like they are always going out at the weekends and I'm not, and I feel like I'm giving into peer pressure by doing things I don't really want to do, but that are just normal things that are meant to be fun.

Do you think I should go to the fund raiser and try to conquer my anxiety or stay at home and feel comfortable?

Why should you kill yourself to satisfy someone else's need for psychological fulfillment? Its not like the benefit is going to raise less money if you don't attend. If they are truly friends, they will accept it when you tell them that loud, crowded places give you anxiety attacks and you're not going because you can't stand being in places like that. If they argue with you about it, they're being selfish and insensitive and you don't need 'friends' like that.

Update: I actually did go and i wasn't that anxious at all, I was pretty bored though, I seem to go through phases of not needing social company, and small talk just bores me. I stayed for a while then went home. I feel quite proud of myself though.