Never had any friends my whole life.

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I am a sophomore in college. Outside of my family, I have never developed a relationship with any other person beyond the level of a mere acquaintance. For nearly 5-6 years I have suffered from social anxiety, and being a "nerd" has only isolated me further. Just wondering is there anyone else this has happened to, or is my current situation truly hopeless?

I hope you will make some friends here. There are a lot of people with similar problems. Good luck.

The last time I had a group of friends was about 10 years ago, and I don't think they were true friends either, as they left me when I had my first episode of clinical depression.

I am finding it increasingly difficult to make friends due to worsening of social anxiety. It can be hard to make friends, especially when you have anxiety. What are your interests? Is there groups and society's at your college? That's the best way forward I think, mixing with people who share your interests.

I was 22 before that happened. From my point of view you are perfectly normal.

I have the same thing going on for me... I have always had this happen to me. I have always been "outcasted", at school, etc.

I know how you feel. It wasn't until I was 17 when I had actual friends who would actually want to be around me.

I'd hazard a guess that this is the norm on this forum, but that doesn't mean that your situation is hopeless, by any extent. My suggestion would be to try to see a counselor at your school (most colleges provide free mental health services) to work on your social skills and see what you could do differently. Also, I'd recommend joining some organizations on campus. Any volunteer organizations are great, as well as any related to one of your hobbies or interests. And when you do join one, go to every single event they offer. Even if you don't make any close friends, everyone in the club will get to know you and you'll at least have made (hopefully) quite a few close acquaintances.

OP, realize that you and your situation are both capable of improving and you truly need to believe that. There will be people on here who will tell you that you can't fundamentally change because of your brain wiring will always stay the same, but ignore them because they are probably just jealous because they couldn't improve.

Well if you really want something (friends) then search for groups, gatherings, and you could visit my 2 threads on haven and making friends subforums. as of this posting I have one other person offering themself to helping others too. if you truly want friends you will find groups or people.(including myself and my threads.)

There are treatments to improve social anxiety both through therapy and medication. You can do it.

I'm pretty much in the exact same situation except that I'm a junior. I've never really been able to fit in with any of the clubs / groups / circles around me, although the upside to all this is that I have more time to focus on studying.