Someone I knew

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Won't leave me alone anymore.. its complicated, but I liked her.. The thing is, she was very rude to me and pushed me aside. Now, as fun as being pushed around is, I cannot take it anymore. She had the power to either make me the happiest person around, or, the most depressed. Guess which one it was.

She pushed me away, a little bit of time, ago, and I just had it and removed her from everything I could (msn, no blocking though).

Periodically, she will send me little bits of 'nothing' and I want it to stop. I want her to go as she only brings me down. I thought she was different but she isnt and walking away has been the easiest thing, especially after a long time.

Why would she push me away just to try and hold on? What can be left? The only thing I can think of is that she knew I "obsessed" over her and I feel she thinks I'm no longer (which I am not) and she feels the need to be wanted. Well, I'm not living my life to constantly make others happy (I dont mean that to sound selfish, but I bend over backwards for some people) while I constantly battle depression (something I am winning more and more, these days).

This is so familiar to me that it scares me.

friendships/relationships suck, eh?

I think I've just been rejected myself.

No, just this one friendship I had with someone.

No one else had ever really been so cruel to me, then just came back to me.

My problem is I'm to forgiving. I overlook the pain they provided me and just want to be their friend again, well, one person, really.

Do you know this person in real life?

Please forget about my contribution to this thread earlier. I'm feeling much better now!

Ya, I know them.. used to.. last time I was to see her I was brushed aside.. that was after a very lengthy time of not seeing each other.. guess I was the only one who cared..

Nonetheless, that doesnt bring me down, it just bothers me someone can be so rude and continually do that and act like nothings happened

Well... Have you tried to make it clear to her that she would stop it?

No, for a few reasons:
1) I dont know how to. I want it worded correctly
2) I'm torn like that song "We've already said . . . Goodbye! I dont wanna see you go, oh, you better go now." Its a catch-22, I dont want to see her go (she made me happy) but I do (she makes me upset)

I've lost her once, already, which is why I wanted to see her.. but she did the same crap.. What I need is someone here to come up to me and slap me around

My advice to that is, don't go see her and don't answer to her. It is just crap she does to get attention from people (atleast i think so) before hurting them badly. Plus, block her on msn for goddesses sake! Time heals once when you succeed avoiding her.

I dont see her, I dont live anywhere near her... like, thousands of km's away

I think you're right and most people agree that its just an attention thing. I used to be full of attention for her, but after the rudeness I experienced and finally realized, I just stopped, just like that.. I didnt want to, and if she is playing a game, I dont think she realizes what shes messing with (life, itself, which I do not mess around with, its too short).

I know I can block her, been there, done that. The thing is, she was a friend.. WAS.. I just dont want to ignore people, anymore, I just want them to walk away on their own choice (after I provide them with a reason out of MY choice).

I *may* just keep going down my road.. she wants to talk to me, her choice, but i cannot message people who are deleted off my list.. she'll fade soon enough

You need to explain your feelings to her man.

Now this is the part I can relate to the most.

I told the friend that if she didn't start being nice, then that was it and we'd stop talking.

She kept insisting she was my friend, but the way she treated me was hurting me a lot, so I blocked her for perhaps 4 months.

I ran into her on a forum and she quoted me in something, that I saw as nice so I decided to re-add her and talk, she had realised how much of a b***h she had been to me and a lot of other people and she had changed herself.

You really have to spell your feelings out to her, just do it on msn.

I can help if you want.

I want to, but I dont know how much she really cares and she knew I liked her.

When we started briefly chatting again, thats all it was, useless, pointless, msn chit chats. Well, I know for a fact she is not like that and I'm DEFINATELY not like that, so I became clueless as to why the conversations were heading that way.

She never wanted to actually chat, she always pushed things aside. Almost like 'well, you're not in my life so I'm limiting you to nothing more then general comments in regards to my quirky "msn names."'

So, periodically I get a message agreeing with my little blurb on msn or something and it doesn't go much beyond that.. maybe 3 or 4 exchanges, talk to you again in 3 days.

I wouldnt know how to begin, dude. She just sends crap like "lol I totally agree" then she wont talk... How can I respond to her "crap" and get her to realize that if she wants to be my friend, be it, but it goes beyond "keeping in touch" with pointless crap.

She once told me she had no time for me.. dude, I've been tossed around so much by her, I dont want to be her friend anymore.. its kind of making me angry just rethinking this over.. I'm more confused and I've been able to find many answers, lately, but this one

Look if you want to stay friends with her and perhaps go back to the 'old days' then you need to tell her ALL OF THIS.

Or just let her slip away.

Up to you.