2 have a gf do u need........

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more social skills?

me? very likely.

To have a stable relationship with a girlfriend, you have to be friends with her. In other words, if the two of you don't even work as friends, then being in a romantic relationship (which is infinitely more complicated) is out of the question.

Try not to think of a girlfriend as a commodity or an achievement. She's a human being.
Veresae has a good point.
As well, "girls" are not this homologous mass in which X will always produce result Y.
A lot of guys (here and elsewhere) seem to think there's some magic alchemical formula going on, where "... if I do X, Y, and Z, POOF! instagirlfriend and my life will be happy bunnies and duckies." To put it another way, there's no cheat code for 'girlfriend'.

Based on the fact that I have the social skills of a dead rat but am still in a stable relationship, I'd say no, you don't need great social skills to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

However it could be quite inaccurate for me to generalise from my own experiance here, since my boyfriend also has Asperger Syndrome, meaning he has poor social skills as well.

In psychology class I learned that certain people in a relationship, I forget the name, it was one of several types of romantic relationships, or something like that, don't share interests but do share intimacy.

Although, some degree of social bonding is probably likely in any relationship. Maybe even down to the streetcorner.

Maybe you need to find an aspie girl instead.

To get a NT girl:hell yeah!

To get a aspie:Not really.

to know lots of girls as friends. Thats simply it, the more girls you meet and get to know the higher the chances of you getting it on with one.

i find most "normal" guys do not have any magic powers to get women, most guys cant just walk up to a woman at a bar and walk away with her, being able to do that is something speical.

now how to put yourself in an easy situation to get to know girls is something i would like to know

lession learned: IT courses are "snake pits" not good places to meet girls

try online dating or some kind of non "snake pit" social club

I CAN'T!! !! !! I don't know any girls in my school that has aspies.
I only have 1 aspie friend whos a senior (hes a boy) , the rest are NTs.

Honestly do you NEED a girlfriend??? girls should be teh LAST thing on your mind right now.

You just need to be yourself. But in my opinion, you shouldn't be sad because you don't have a girlfriend.

besides, they'll almost smell it that you 'need!!' a gf.
and you're not having the greatest relationships purely just because you want one.

yeah.

wait.........what?

I don't get what your asking, but Doc Gamer is here.


I think you need to stop thinking about needing a girl. and just let it happen.

I'm sad because I don't have a girlfriend.

Oops. I'm sorry about how heartless my commet was.