working on my social skills

Post Reply New Topic

Hi, im doing voice coaching, toastmasters, impromptu acting, pretending to look at flats, meetup.com. Im doing it to get an edge in sales but also improve my social life.

I thought id check it out and report here what I find. What helped me, what didn't help me etc

... (on standby)

Ill try posting this here for a start, see if we are feeling it if not ill stop posting on this thread. Perhaps you could offer unique ways of looking at it and give me some advice, that would be good

So I went a AS group. Some behavior was eccentric and obsessive but that didn't worry me one bit. It was really nice to be among my own, finally. I didn't feel like I had to make adjustments like I have to learn for the NT's. The people had amazing factual knowledge made me think I need to learn more facts Wasn't sure how close I need to get to people before I ask for there number before I hang out with them.

Then I went to the gym to try and work off my gut.

Did you feel any different level of anxiety or concern about attending the meetup as opposed to any of the other events you attend?

A bit of shyness and I thought someone knew I thought there gf was attractive. I avoided both of them. Ill allways avoid them

Basically when I couldn't keep up the conversation I knew they understood and it was cool. I was one of them, It was awesome.

Meetups are good places to practice socialising. But if there's loads of people, you can easily find yourself in the trap of finding so many new faces but not making any real friends. So its better to try to find a few people you can connect well with rather than try to make friends with everyone. It also helps if you have a varied range of conversation skills you can adopt, not just asking questions and answers. Things like listening to what they say and making an educated assumption about it, turning your questions into statements. This makes socialising easier for the people you're with. All the best.

Day 2 socializing. Went to a live broadcasting of "are the police losing our trust" via meetup. Geeks at meetup (geeks are hot) I felt very comfortable around these people

One lady did most of the talking. I couldn't understand her talking style. I guees with practice I can tune in better. I managed to say something on topic. My asperger research says we are very good at talking about our special interest but struggle any other topic. I want to learn how to freestyle on many topics.

I met a chinese traveller who wanted to be friends. Sure, I'll give foreign travelers a chance. He really wanted to get to know me but when I facebooked him he ignored me, its really strange