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zacb
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25 Oct 2013, 6:40 pm

Are there ideal places for aspies, or is that "the grass is greener" syndrome? I find where I am depressing. There is little work, it is hard to organize any non-general groups (third party political, etc.) , not much to do. and I don't really relate to anyone, and I just feel bored and depressed. Am I being grandiose, or are there places that are more suited to aspies?



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25 Oct 2013, 9:53 pm

I moved to a town in New England in late 2002 hoping people would be more intellectual and more open to ideas. It took a while to start getting connected.

A big city might offer more possibilities, but still might take a while to get connected.



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25 Oct 2013, 10:49 pm

The only ideal place would be a daydream, video game or other fiction of your choosing. RL is never gonna be ideal.
The best you can do (if you have the opportunity) is to go a place where you can utilize your strengths and work within your fields of interests.

I'd avoid small places at all costs. I couldn't take one of those everyone-knows-everyone kind of places. I need the anonymity and diversity of the big city.


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26 Oct 2013, 2:29 am

I'm not like other Aspies who feel they should spend time with others and get depressed when alone. I love and prefer being alone. I never get lonely or depressed. The closest I come to socialising is going to the Library or shopping centre by myself. I don't want or need other people. It's not a bitter thing. I was never teased about being different. I was lucky but I've always been on my own and preferred it that way. Other people don't like hanging around me either (probably because I intentionally give off "Go Away" vibes!)


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26 Oct 2013, 7:06 am

Home and in the arms of someone who makes you believe your theirs and vice versa. im very lovey dovey today, can't help it, its the new attention from someone i've been getting lately, they make me hot under the collar, and don't know how much they do. shame he can't be here yet maybe that gives me some quality downtime.



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26 Oct 2013, 7:23 am

It's taken me a decade but I only volunteer with people/associates/friends for things I know I'll excel at. Don't get me wrong, I'm not going somewhere to flaunt about, just that I know I won't fail miserably there. Today I'm driving a friend to buy a model airplane, he pays gas, food, etc. I get company with another "likely" aspie, and it's all subject matter I can swim in.
I avoid things like Halloween, and holiday parties, as I know the subjects may drift where I don't want to go.
Just pick to do what you've been comfortable with in the past, and kick your own butt out the door to go do again what you were successful (or at least not uncomfortable with) before.


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26 Oct 2013, 7:39 am

I live in a small town if that dealienates anything. The boredom and cliques are killing me, along with the lack of jobs.



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26 Oct 2013, 8:02 pm

zacb wrote:
I live in a small town if that dealienates anything. The boredom and cliques are killing me, along with the lack of jobs.


Sounds like you're also clinically depressed, which is common for Aspies.

I suggest you move to a larger city where you can be anonymous and find friends.



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26 Oct 2013, 9:53 pm

JSBACHlover wrote:
zacb wrote:
I live in a small town if that dealienates anything. The boredom and cliques are killing me, along with the lack of jobs.


Sounds like you're also clinically depressed, which is common for Aspies.

I suggest you move to a larger city where you can be anonymous and find friends.


I was diagnosed as non clinically depressed. But yeah I am moving. The wait is getting to me though.


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27 Oct 2013, 9:02 am

zombie defense leauge

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27 Oct 2013, 1:08 pm

With Family

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27 Oct 2013, 1:22 pm

My ideal place is either, in a world of my own or in a pub/bar people watching.


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27 Oct 2013, 1:29 pm

Antartica :P



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27 Oct 2013, 1:39 pm

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27 Oct 2013, 8:19 pm

As of late, I am wondering if SE Asia or South America could accommodate an aspie XD .


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