(Another) failed attempt at socialising

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The socialising part didn't actually get to happen because there was a mix up with either the meeting time or place, I'm not sure. I hung around the restaurant where I thought I was meeting my boss/friend and her friend for half an hour.

After thinking about it I know I should have phoned my boss/friend or actually go into the restaurant and see if they were in there but I can't think straight when I am in a situation like that. I just got more and more upset in the street before deciding I would leave.

So I drove home in tears. I texted my boss/friend to let her know so she wouldn't wait at the cinema for me (the next place we were supposed to go).

Not only have I failed socially (once more), I have got upset waiting around and not knowing what to do and I have let down the person who pays my wages.

Does this get any better? I spent a lot of my teenage years in similar circumstances but haven't put myself in normal socialising situations for a long time. I usually check lots of times to make sure I have the meeting details right. I am in my thirties and newly diagnosed.

It can be stressful when there's a mixup regarding the time or place of meeting someone, it can make one confused and cause a bit of a meltdown: happens to me too from time to time but I get over it quick once the misunderstanding has been sorted out. Sometimes I've had paranoid ideas about the person/people even if it's my best friend or my mom, only to realise later there was a legitimate reason for their non-appearance. When one has to wait a long time for a lift, or for someone to arrive, the waiting can cause all kinds of negative thoughts to go through one's head.

Don't worry overmuch about it - just explain when you're calmed down and I'm sure she will understand and you'll have another chance to go somewhere with her.

All the best for next time.

Thank you. I know in the cold light of day how things should have gone and what I should have done. My emotions just grow and even if I'd have met them I would have been in a state. I guess learn from it and do my overchecking as usual next time. I do it for a reason!

I hope you fixed things. It can be easy to make mistakes. After not doing good with socializing, it's not out of the ordinary to not want to over check and assume they just stood you up.

It's harder for me with females. I always think they are secretly plotting to be mean to me. I hope your boss had a legit reason, or she was really in there. A good idea for next time would be to tell her to give you a call whenever she arrives so you don't ever miss each other.