Trouble letting go

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I have a friend and the past few weeks I've analyzed it and the past and all our arguments stem from a lack of honesty and openness on their part. All our fights are because they didn't tell me something and I called them out for lying to me. I am overly emotional about it yes, but I know I recognized the problem. It wasn't me, I have issues sure but I've never had the trouble I've had with this friend with anyone ever in my entire life. My instincts called them liars my analyzes called them and pointed out their lies. They tell lies that just don't make sense and are easily seen through simply because their story changes so much. My great memory allows me to see all the things they've said and all the lies they've made. Some of those lies really hurt me badly. I need to disconnect, I need to stop talking to them for my own benefit. But they kept me company for so long and made me feel good when I didn't think they were lying. How can I let this go and tell them to bugger off the way they deserve? And just not come back like a bastard for the attention.

I'm sorry that's happening with your friend. Have you tried confronted them about their lies, and all that? Let it go...Well, you could say: I don't like how you've treated me. I'm tired of your lies, yet you won't admit you've been lying to me. Don't expect me to come back to you because I won't. Bye.
Something like that. The best you can do is to not show you're too hurt about it. Why? Because, then, you'll give them that satisfaction. Those kind of people sort of enjoy seeing how they hurt others. They're very twisted. In this case, I don't recommend a dramatic exit. So, the best you can do to leave is to keep it cool.
Find something else to distract yourself, until you eventually think less and less about it. By the record, you're not being overly emotional. You''re just hurt. It's the cause-effect thing. They do something bad, and you feel hurt.

Screwed up part is, I think I made them feel so guilty they wanted to stop themselves. I gave a dramatic exit, I know I wasn't supposed to but I doubt they enjoyed it much. They enjoyed being able to lead me on and have me think they might like me. I kept trying to get them to give a clear answer and they wouldn't. They lied mainly about things of that nature and I was just honestly trying to be friends with someone. They said they were sorry I was so lonely >.>... I'm not a hopeless depressive, I was too willing to believe I misunderstood situations and tried several times to end the friendship because they lied to me. I just enjoyed having company so much that I wouldn't do it. Fact is most people like me and enjoy my company, she just used me instead of enjoying my company like everyone else does.

I was perfectly happy as friends but she wanted to lead me on. This is a bad person, I think maybe not evil but definitely bad in the worst way. Poison to friendships and user of men for her own gratification. I just woke up from what I can only assume were nightmares, I've never woken up depressed before... I let myself be lead on because I enjoyed having company that wasn't openly evil. It's that subtle going to trick you kind that still gets me, and I fear I may have trust issues for the rest of my life because of this.