Introverion, accepting it and it's yin and yang

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I have not posted on this website in a long time and I am in the mood of venting so here goes.

I am an introvert and something that I am slowly coming to terms with it and accepting with. I was forced by my family to be more sociable when I was younger but I had always preferred a quiet night in, playing video games, watching movies and the like. Sometimes I would be chastised for it. I now live on my own now and I do enjoy the solitude alot (sometimes too much as I do get bouts of loneliness and shed a few tears sometimes but overall I am happy) but I sometimes feel , especially on weekends, to "go out" and be social. I feel that I am socially alright on that regard and have no need to push it further. Society in general prefers people who like to take risks, go-getters, life of the party and those in the spotlight and they get more ahead in life. As for me, I do feel sometimes that my introversion is keeping me from getting that promotion and if i do something risky, I risk messing up. I have tuned out of what society's expects out of me and I do things in a way that makes me feel right but I still do conform to what is expected of me.

Another thing that happens to me and ruffles my feathers, mostly on Sunday is the massive amounts of posts of what my friends post on Facebook about the great times they had going to a birthday party/wedding etc.. I do feel cussing like a sailor at them and lamb blasting them saying "how come I was not invited?" and I feel angry at them but I keep it on the inside as not to offend them. This goes on for about an hour than I am usually cool later on. I have nothing against Facebook. I like using it but I am starting to think i need a break from it sometimes.

I do feel a bit better now that I wrote this down. I am sure some of you feel the same way in whole or in part.

Hello, I can defo relate to what you wrote there. For most of my life I've always hated that about myself, and thought that if I tried hard enough I could learn to behave in a way that you mention society seems to want; risk-takers, go-getters, loud social butterflies. But I have finally realised that that simply isn't me, and more importantly I have realised; it is okay that I'm not like that. Yes it can make getting jobs/promotions etc more difficult, but battling to be something I'm not seems to cause me a lot of psychological damage, which isn't going to get me anywhere. I feel constantly inferior to those loud people and feeling inferior results in my self esteem being trashed. I want to work on being more confident in who I am; to learn to be confident in my introversion.

I am reading this book at the moment > 'Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that won't stop talking' http://www.amazon.co.uk/Quiet-power-int ... ords=quiet. I have only just started reading it so can't recommend it with certainty, but I thought I'd post the link anyway in case you'd find it beneficial.