Question for NT's..

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do you find it weird that aspies do not use body language. Why would it bother you?

It can seem a little odd.
We can get a lot of information from body language -what mood the person is in (relaxed/tense/happy/angry/etc), how they feel about us (i.e. if that person likes or dislikes us), if they are our social equal or not (e.g. two friends meeting up for coffee will have relaxed and mirrored body language to each other, while if you are a formal meeting with your boss the body language will be different and show the boss to be in charge.)
We rely on body language a lot on a subconscious level, so if someone does not display any body language we losing out on a lot of information that comes instinctively to us and can feel uncomfortable. It's the same if the wrong body language is displayed e.g. if I dropped my purse in the street and a stranger picked it up and returned it to me, that would be a nice thing to do. But if he returned it by standing too close to me with his shoulders tensed I would feel threatened even though his intentions were good.

I hope this answer is okay. I've probably missed out on some things.

It's weird but I haven't really noticed. My 8 year old daughter has a diagnosis of PDD NOS ( basically just what they call high functioning autism but she's atypical). I know a lot of kids on the spectrum because she spends part of her school day in a regular class and part in a class for kids with mild to moderate autism. She seems to use body language though. She's not great with eye contact unless she wants my attention. But then she's atypical and female so maybe it's different. When ever I come to visit the class with autistic kids most of them run up to see me and say hello. So cute!

In fact I don't know if it's just because she's my daughter but I can tell exactly how she feels about something by looking at her face. We're pretty close.