Need Some help on a party

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Ok, my birthday is this Friday and i'm planning a little party to celebrate it. However, last year I had a very bad experience when i had a little party for my birthday. (I'm way at college so I don't have my family to celebrate my birthday with.)

So here the story: I invited the people I knew at school over to my dorm room to watch a moive. I had only been at the college for half year since I had tranfered that fall. So most of the people I knew were freshman and were from drumline. So I invited like 15 people, but most of them couldn't come because they had stuff do that Saturday evening, which I totally understand. However, the one guy who said yes didn't show up until an hour after the time i said. (I was crying and really mad for an hour, my roommate at the time had her boyfriend with her, and were will to watch the movie with me if no one showed up.) So he shows up with a group of the people I didn't invite, i know who they were because they were all from band. Then some of other of drumline members came. But I felt left out from everyone because they were talking on the phone or to each other. Then half through the movie this guy says will i'm leaving because i'm tired due to stay up the night before until 3am. (I guess they were having fun or something.) I was not pleased at this at all. So, my first birthday way from my family was not very good.

So now for my question: I have talked to some of my friends that are not from the drumline to see how many would be free on Friday before I planned anything. However, that was only 5 people and out of the 5 people only 2 people could come for sure. (I met them this year and plus they live on my floor and one is the RA and the other is her friend.) So should I invite my so called friends from the drumline to the party or not? (They are all younger than me by three years or more.) I don't want to feel lonely on my birthday which is my greatest fear or have another failure in having people over to my dorm room. Thanks.

I just haven't celebrated my birthday at college for the last two years. I turn 21 in less than a month (FINALLY!) and I will be having a small get together at a wine bar on the day of my birthday and a more general combined party at a bar a little later when my room mate turns 21.

Nothing fills up a party like alcohol but then you have the slight problem of a bunch of noisy drunks in your room which I assume you don't want (I sure as hell wouldn't!). Most college students go to a party to get drunk and if there isn't alcohol at a party they are invited to, they will probably go somewhere where this is alcohol. It sucks but it's been pretty true in my experience.

I think that alcohol or not, the social structure of parties in college is very different from when you are young. For one thing, people seem to disregard invitations. Everything is word of mouth. This means that the people you invited don't feel obligated to come, or even to tell you that they're not comming. People also feel free to bring extra people, and to come and go anytime they wish. Its much more casual than other parties before or after college-age. I'm like you in that if i have a party, i like to know exactly who is comming and when and how long they're staying. I didn't do anything for my 21st birthday because i knew it would be dissapointing. This year, I'm having 5 good friends over to spend the night (i'm a girl and i live with my parents 30 min from school). I might suggest that instead of trying to have a party, you could invite 1, 2, or 3 friends out to do something fun, or to your place for a bit. Make it a planned, private get-together, not a party. I hope you have fun. Let us know how it works out.

Thanks for the ideas. But I have feeling I'll only have two people show up, so what I really want to know is should I take a chance and invite the people I like the most from the drumline to the party (its really just a get together to watch a movie and eat cake) or only have two people come?

If it were me, I'd just invite the two

So a new deveoplement happened last night, one of the girls on the drumline invited everyone over to her house of a get together on Friday!! !! I'm a little mad about this because I now I feel a little left out and it would be weird to invite anyone from the drumline now!! !! So, I don't know what I'm going to do now!! !! There are some other people who I know that live in my dorm that I'm going to invite today but I don't if they will be able to come or not. (Sorry if i'm ranting a little but I'm a little up-set about this whole thing right now!) So would you stay invite some of the drumline now after someone else invited them to party?

I do not even like parties. I do not like being around large groups of noisy humans either. I would say a total of 5 humans and me is pushing it. If it was me I would have dinner with a person I liked, or just forget the whole thing.

Parties are something I dread. All those noisy humans. I do not know how to act, or who to listen to. I get exhausted after an hour. This is your birthday. Do what makes you happy.

Do you have a social friend to pull people together for you? My best birthday party was for my 22nd year, because my good friend (who has more connections than I do) invited a bunch of acquaintances to watch movies on my birthday. I never would have been able to gather that many people on my own. I didn't feel left out at all because we just commented on the movies and goofed around. A couple of people just dropped by for a few minutes to give me gifts, but I didn't mind.

I found that in college, my best year was my Senior year. The first three years were kind of difficult as far as social issues were concerned. Birthdays should become easier the more you advance through the years.

Thanks for the help guys. My party went very well. I had 4 friends over. We talked, had cake and ice cream, and watched a movie. So, it made my day and ended my birthday on a happy note. So thanks again for the help.

I had a good experience for my 21st birthday in college. i dont like to drink, so i got a really good chocolate cake, and reallygood chocolate ice cream, and invited 4 or 5 friends over to a commons room, and we got all sugared up on chocolate and talked and laughed and had a good time....I couldnt have asked for anything more, Im amazed that I was able to do it esp after hearing some of these stories, and will remember it for a long time. A friend brought some godiva liquer but I didnt drink it, and no one got drunk, yay!