Currently need help in having a social life

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I'm currently trying to find GIS Internships and submitting my resumes but to no avail. I have considered volunteering, but the idea of having to step out of my comfort zone in order to socialize at times makes me have anxiety. That is one of the factors that has held me back in regards to socializing and having a normal social life. I sometimes hate myself that I have a monotone voice, and feel like I can't speak right sometimes. Plus I'm very shy.

I see that in order to be successful in pursuing my career I will need to step out of my comfort zone, despite having a low self esteem, and poor self confidence. I want to have a girlfriend, but I lack self confidence, self esteem, social skills. I get frustrated and depressed thinking about it.

I'm currently thinking if I should do volunteering that I would feel comfortable and would involve less interacting, or choose one that would require to step out of my comfort zone.

There are two reasons why I'm considering volunteering. One, I need to build up my resume. Two, I need to improve my social skills, self confidence, socialize with people, and get over with my shyness.

I remember what my psychologist told me about how to improve my speech and my voice, by talking more at home with my parents as well as my brother and sister. The problem is that I don't open up myself about my daily life. I feel so self conscience about not having a normal social life.

As of now I can't afford to see a speech pathologist can teach me how to talk in a normal sounding voice. The reason why that is very important for me is because I don't want to have another incident like I had back in high school were my French teacher discriminated me for having a monotone voice, and thought I was dumb, incapable of passing her class. It makes me so f****** pissed still till this day!! I could have fired that b****'s a** ! !
Another reason since I'm Hispanic people confuse my monotone voice with an accent and assume that I'm a foreign born citizen when in fact I was born in the U.S.

The Squid thinks you should take the volunteer work that takes you out of your comfort zone. For us, it's the only way we've learned anything. Drop a bird out of it's nest and see if it flies. You need to put yourself into a situation that is difficult, and one that you can't really back out of, we find it's the best way to learn. Adopt, adapt and improve. We say give it a shot. Since it's volunteer work, it won't really hurt you if you absolutely can't do it. Just don't give up too soon!