Why can't we all just be friends?

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I am part of a Martial Arts club and there is this guy that I made friends with, he is really nice, and he is autistic, just like me. Before and after class, or when there is a break, he has a tendency to follow me around and talk to me (he told me awhile ago that he likes me, and wants to go out with me, but I told him that I only liked him as a friend, and he accepted that, and everything has been fine since). I enjoy talking to him, and I have accepted that that is the way he is. Unfortunately, my friend doesn't like him that much, she thinks that he is "weird". Whenever I'm talking to my friend, and he comes over to talk to me, she kinda avoids him and won't talk to me until he leaves. Just the other day, her and some of my other friends were talking about him, and saying that he is "creepy". This got me really upset because i know he is a perfectly nice guy who can't help himself. They don't know that he is autistic or that I am and I don't know if I should tell them. Why can't everyone just be friends? has anyone else faced a similar situation?

If you like him don't let your friends ruin it for you. I decided not to date a girl before because my friends thought she wasn't good enough, even though I liked her. I have always regretted it.

If you are able to get your two friends together than that is always a great idea for broadening and expanding your social network. However not everyone will get along with everyone.

Why not one day have a chat with your female friend and ask her why she doesn't like your male friend? Quite often there's a reason we don't like certain people, and it is useful to work out what that reason is.

For instance, there's a guy I used to work with I found very awkward because on the one hand he tended to be very dominant, yet most of what he said was just his opinions based upon things he had heard from someone, and if often would raise things in meetings based upon something he heard but taken out of context, and the combination of this and his dominance made him a very awkward character.

I'm not saying your friend is like this at all, this is just an example to show you why one person may not like another. It's good to know why.

Maybe by understanding your female friend's point of view, you can find a way for them to both accept each other.