Do you think relationships suck? (Mini-rant)

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People say they care but their natural emotions and responses to things do not suggest as such. They say they care but don't show it. They say they love you but you end up replaceable. I'm struggling and struggling with this.. Trying to fend off doubt but it's really strong. I have been stuck on the outside for as long as I can remember and my time of having an in and belonging was short lived. It may get better again...but I sure am discouraged. Right now I feel that Relationships are only real if you were born an insider. Born an outsider and you're just damned.

Yeah, I feel that way, too. People say a lot of things and mean few of them.

Yes they can.
A good example was of someone who I had considered a close friend who 8 years. When we first started hanging out in 2006, she was very needy and lonely. She was always complaining about connecting with others and making friends. I felt that I did the best I could to reach out. I also wanted her to find someone and get married which she did. It was when she finally got the opportunity that she seemed to change.

In fact I had spoken to another friend about the situation at a birthday gathering yesterday. He said that he was very shocked that she would dump me and yet whine about not having any friends. At the same time he said she had definitely changed and that everything seemed to be all about her after getting married. He also felt that she never appeared to be excited to come to my events but only came due to an obligation.

Hearing that yesterday really opened up my eyes in making wonder if she was just using me to fill up a void until she got what she wanted out of life.

Then again I did a chance to think about that friendship and even before she got married, I just do not feel that she was that nice to me. In fact, she was bully.