Hi,
I've been diagnosed since 2008. I met a couple of great aspie friends, people who we thought of ourselves as go-getters and not "whiny" aspies. We formed a Facebook group in 2013 and had a great time. One of my friends was a person I met through my friend here in NJ. She lives in Colorado and is something of a cantankerous personality. Regardless, we had a great time talking online. When I got hired for a new position after a period of unemployment, I decided to drive out to Colorado from NJ to meet and hangout.
The meeting was something mixed. She was all cranky throughout, not hesitating to point out my flaws and jumping on every misstatement. We did have some good moments, especially the last day. It seemed though after I got back that our relationship changed. She seemed to perceive me as annoying and gradually going from "messing" with me to becoming full-on malicious (in my viewpoint). Now she pretty much ignores me in the FB group, when not disparaging me.
She had a pretty messed up life (which I won't go into), so I can be somewhat forgiving. However, it has been too much. My FB group consists of mostly people in NJ with the few others from Colorado. I'm all good friends with the ones in NJ. I've kept my distance for now. I've had been in similar situations before and confronting the person online or in public with their behavior makes only others perceive I have a meltdown and cause them to gradually distance themselves from me. I don't wish to make the same mistake. Yet, the dual loyalty of having to juggle my friends and my "former" friend is driving me crazy inside.
If anyone has been through this or can offer great advice, that would be welcome.
27 Aug 2014, 8:03 am
