What others expect of you, Fear of being alone...

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I would like to read opinions of people on the autistic spectrum. Who have similar reactions from people and can relate? maybe for different reasons...

Most of the people I have spoken to have pushed the idea that I will be alone because I (Personally) disagree with bars/clubs , cinema and other things that I believe have become a need for people in our economy and may not benefit us (Or me Personally). This is also a personal justification for avoidance of things which affect my condition as a schizophrenic and desire to move away from things from my past which have damaged me or developed morals based on upbringing.

The idea of "You're going to be alone" and all supporting comments planted in my subconscious by many surrounding people is only making things harder, the "feeling" of the world against one. The worst thought is that I won't have a working relationship with a life partner, But also friendships.

I want to socialise in many other ways which benefit learning and natural lifestyle and I am labelled as old fashioned or (a desire to be Green as well as Blue [Using Psychological Terms]).

Not everyone enjoys the same things in life. You have a better opportunity to meet someone who enjoys life the same way you do by doing what you love.

Don't know much about schizophrenia but I would have thought having friends around you is a good thing, not a bad thing. Also, if you are reporting accurately what some people have advised you, I don't see the connection between disliking bars and clubs and need to live a life of solitude. If you want to have a life's partner I would start by making a few trustworthy friends and go from there. If you are working get to know as many people as you can and get to know them after work. Join an interest group if you have a special interest and link up with people who share common interests with you.

I'm surprised you mention the cinema as unbeneficial. I love going to the cinema. I almost always go by myself, and it's almost always better that way. Especially when you go in the mornings or early afternoon, and there's only a few other people there. You're in a dark room where nobody can see you, and if you're watching a decent movie, with all the sound surrounding you - it's a brilliant experience. The last film I saw was "Into The Storm". It was a very average story, but I love storms...and the film gave me a buzz for the rest of the day. So did watching "The Hobbit" last year, though that was a great story, and watching the inside of the mountain and Rivendell was incredibly beautiful, and amazing to watch on big screen. Nothing beats it. It's not educational, sure, but it makes me feel great. For both of these films I got an extra boost because I was feeling particularly unhappy, and I got free cinema tickets. Freebies and (real) deals are another thing of mine, but that's another topic.

Television on the other hand...

I'm not interested in bars/clubs either, especially if they are blasting the loud noise called music nowadays, and I have no interest in consuming alcohol. However, I am a huge movie buff and always enjoy going to the theatre's, though most of the time I enjoy my Blu-Ray's/DVD's/VHS. I have been on a few 'dates' with a friend of mine at the movies and I treat her to dinner after. It really is a nice experience.

IMO, it is harmful to not have at least a handful of good friends that respect you for who you are. I have a decent number of friends like that and whenever I am with them I feel complete and happy. They know I am different and they respect and embrace it. I thought I would be alone forever as well, but I found the friends that I hold dear and am forever better and happier.