Tried of feeling like I'm missing out.

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Hello all of my fellow planeteers! I need some help with wanting to break out of my shell. as you can see, I'm growing so tried of missing out on chances of talking to women that I find to get my attraction. I'm Always just surfing online daily just to appease my social needs like going on this site, and playing games when I'm not in college. I have bad self esteem issues, whenever I try to approach a woman of my interest, I hesitate. I talked to my family about this, but, I feel that they don't look into my communication issues to deeply. Any communication help?

Hey Moostar: don't you play music?

Girls are especially keen on guitar players.

And you seem to have lots of knowledge of music, and seem to be into some of the modern music. Why don't you just talk about music?

i agree with kraftiekortie on talking about music, or anything you genuinely love really. some of the most popular guys i know are guitar players.
you may not even have to approach someone, just go to a park or something and start strumming some tunes, and eventually someone interested might come for a chat.

but don't, don't do what i did and check out and pretend to indulge in an interest that the person likes, for the sole purpose of having something to talk about and share. if you end up genuinely enjoying it, great. it is just so exhausting, pretending to like something you don't just to relate more with someone.

kraftiekortie, and Kip, I tend to over think what topics I could talk to people about . That is a great idea to talk about music taste. I really enjoy a wide range of music. From electric swing, to early 80's and 90 pop to electronic. my taste are just all over the place. My issue is that I go to college, and I have some classes that require some attention to my work. because of this, Its caused me to become a bit anti-social.

Truthfully, you SHOULD concentrate on your work more than socializing while you're in college.

I have a nephew--very bright--who was thrown out of college because he socialized too much. All this socialization caused him to fail all his classes and get expelled!

He did right himself, however. He managed to graduate from community college, and is now in a 4-year college, doing well. He still socializes--but he has a better perspective on what he needs to do in college: LEARN!

It's quite understandable; it could get lonely at times. However, I would just think of the first two years college as merely a phase in life that one must endure. Once you get into more advanced classes, the workload will probably decrease somewhat. What are your majoring in?

Truthfully, it's better if you let friends come to you, rather than forcefully try to make friends. Your musical knowledge and interest will, eventually, win you friends, I believe.