Ending friendships

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I want to know how do you people usually end your friendships because I tried to but it becomes like it's just a small fight then things go normal
Those 2 friends I tried to fight but they ask whats wrong like nothing is wrong to me when I try to, I'm just bored and want to be a lone and I don't want any friends I even said that to them then they said it depressed them and that I'm like family to them I really do feel guilty but I don't know what to do I don't like having close friends like them I don't feel comfortable when people get emotional and close to me it feels dumb and weird and awkward

Does anyone else experience this and how did you end friendships??

You want to be alone and that is your choice. What is the reason for wanting to end the relationship with them?

1. Are they respecting you, your opinion, space, etc.
2. Are they really as interested in you as they say they are?
3. How is the relationship? Healthy, unhealthy?
4. Are they trust worthy


As for cutting people loose you might want to tell them that you feel like they are good people but you might want to point out that you feel like you are not the best fit for one another.

I would wait until they try to contact you with their regular chit chat. Rather than ignore them or confuse them it might be best to tell them you you are not interested.

They respect me, they're trustworthy too, one of them had been my friend for 6-8 years, the other was my classmate since 6-7 years and became my friend last year,,, but not my space I don't think they respect it or if they realize that I don't like it when they do what they do to my space, if I don't talk to them on whatsup or bbm or those apps for a while they will keep bugging me saying they miss me and ask why I 'disappeared', they try to get closer to me and they feel so close to me while I don't they also consider me precious to them like they say but I don't really feel they're precious to me I consider them like normal friends that I discuss things with like our hobbies or school things, I get really irritated and confused and very disturbed if they say they miss me when we haven't seen eachother for a while I don't like it I don't like the feeling of people feeling close to me, I like keeping distance/limits between me and others I really don't want having 'close friends' or 'bestfriends' I like having casual friendships like friends who don't get very emotional and dramatic like those two friends, I also don't like some of their personality traits its not like those personality traits are bad or harmful to anyone but I don't like them, I don't know whether I should do what you told me to do because the previous time I said something similar to them but it didn't work

I can relate to all of that. When I was in junior high there were some girls I liked talking to in school (since I already had to be there) but it never made me want to hang with them in my spare time or call them or receive calls from them. They claimed to be fond of me and said they'd missed me, which I hope was just them saying what they thought I wanted to hear, because I did not reciprocate it at all. I never missed them and I didn't have feelings for them. I liked them enough but I didn't feel close to them and I wasn't attached. They didn't suggest hanging out all that often, but it was still too often for me, as I'd much rather stay at home with my pets and engage in my interests. I absolutely hate it when people just decide to come by, it suits me very poorly, and to this day I do not want real life friendships, only online where I can get the communication need covered but when I want it. I need a lot of alone time, and will fall out of touch from time to time. I can only handle casual friends or good friends who respect my boundaries. Ironically I feel much closer to the online friends I've had than I ever did anyone besides family IRL.


As for what you should do... Well since telling them doesn't seem to work, you could show them.
When they text you, ignore them or wait too long with replying. When you do reply, do it with one-word replies. Be rejecting in your dealings with them. Avoid saying anything personal about yourself, make generic statements. Screen their calls. They'll get the hint eventually.
If they wanna do stuff IRL, always say you're too busy. Works even better if there is a chance for them to see you are not, like you being with someone else when you were too busy for them.

You could also try to talk to them again, explain what you want and why, and not let them drag you into a fight. Just say how it and say bye.

You have the right to not spend time with someone.

I also don't really feel anything towards so when they're acting so emotional towards me it disturbs me then makes me feel guilty I always also try to be mean with them to make them get away
The big problem is we go the same school and same class and my seat is exactly right beside me and there was a time when I tried to change my place but thet started some drama so I had to come back and whenever I don't hang with them in break time they call me a traitor and ask me why I didn't go with them and then say that they're sad because of that
Ireally want to disconnect myself completely from them because I really feel disgusted from them and what they do I really see them stupid now they think we are living in an anime or something example ; one of them told me that even if I don't like them or if I hate them they will always love me and never forget me and they want to protect me and said they love me like "naruto and sasuke" - when they said that I felt that they're really stupid drama starters because they're comparing real life to a dramatic emotional ANIME, I enjoy anime and all but I don't consider it important like they do and I never compare to real life because its just anime well maybe sometimes in small things it does remind me of real life
The point is they're so stupid to me I don't like unserious people like them

Since you already tried and went back to them because they started drama, they probably don't think you were all that serious about it. Since they are dramatic personalities themselves, they may have thought you just wanted the attention. The only thing you can do is stand your ground with them. Avoid them, not give in when they nag or start drama, stay firm about not being friends with them. That's the only way you'll get rid of them. You shouldn't let them push you into going back, regardless of how sad they claim to be or them asking why, when you don't want to.

Be adamant. That's the only advice I have.

Thank you for helping (: I'm already trying this method and its working they're getting more distant from me everyday

I know what it is like to deal with people who don't take no for an answer very well. There is this guy in my complex who I get bad vibes about. He keeps wanting to pursue things with me whenever he sees me. I have given him several hints that I am not interested in getting to know him. I have wondered if he has AS himself.

He will honk the horn or shout out the window of his car if he sees me. If he is walking he will try and say hi and so I have to just keep walking and ignore him. This past week I was outside walking to the bus and he was coming from the bus. I just tried to walk past him but he saw me. I just kept on looking forward and having to ignore him.

He asked me what he did wrong. I turned around and saw him stop as I was walking away. "You're weird and I don't like you. Get it in your head." He walked away. I have said that multiple times.

So just keep ignoring them.

As for anime your story reminds me of a slice of life comedy style called "Ouran High School Host Club." You sound a lot like Haruhi who keeps getting bothered by the host club. I think you would like it.

Another thing you could do it watch some Inuyasha and learn how to make enchanted beads and tell them to "Sit!"

Zajie, I'm glad it's starting to help.

He sounds awful! I just hate pushiness so much, so those kinds of things are triggers for me. He needs to respect your "no".

In junior high there was a girl a year younger than me who tried befriending me. I had no interest whatsoever in her. She kept trying to talk to me, I kept giving her one-word replies and walking away quickly.

Of course the best thing I could have done was just to show her who I am, that always seem to send them flying! And as it was that's almost what happened too. I like-liked a boy in her class and asked her for his full name and address. (I never did anything more with it, but never mind that). She handed me a note where she'd written the details after school one day. For that she had 'bought' herself to be allowed to walk home with me. I guess she realized I'm boring because she never hung after me again.
I have to confess that while I didn't like her at all, and was annoyed by her, the attention was also a bit of a confidence booster.

If someone does the same thing this person does to you to me I'll usually ignore them or deny their existence but not to the point of showing it for it to be too obvious, I reply to them when they talk but I would act like I'm not interested but be nice at the same time that way they go away from me by themselves
Hahahaha lol I watched Ouran High school it was so funny
I still didn't watch inyusha though lol
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