Why do NTs do this?

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Theres this guy at my school who seems like he's really popular. Like whenever he gets an award at an assembly and gets called up to the stage, he gets HUGE applause from everyone in my grade. We had a singing contest in our school recently, and he was in it. When he got to the stage, he got HUGE applause. No one else got that much applause.

However, I overheard my classmates lots of times trash talking him, saying how he's "thirsty"(modern term for "desperate"), the most worthless person on earth. They were having a whole conversation about how he is so desperate to get a girl, that he will take anyone that he can get. He tried to get me to go out with him last year by messaging me over social media when I hadn't talked to him in person. He seemed like a nice guy, but I declined cuz I just didn't have any feelings for him. And he gave me exaggerated compliments, and they weren't just normal stuff like "you're pretty, or "you're really nice". It was stuff that you wouldn't say to someone if they barely knew them. Thats why I think what everyone is saying about him is true.

Why do NTs do that though, pretend like they like him, when they actually don't?

interesting, i don't know.
Maybe they don't want to seem strange by NOT giving him a round of loud applause (cos everyone else is doing it)
But then they talk about him like a dog out of jealousy OR because they don't like him and want to express that after being fake and clapping loudly.

Because they're socially oriented; meaning that they're mostly interested in maintaining superficial relationships based on mutual admiration, rather than being focused on spiritual or intellectual development.

I hate to say it: but it seems as if many people DO like him. I don't think so many people feel obligated to lie about what a great guy he is, thus deserving the applause.

I would wonder why he is so popular. What has he done to "earn" so much applause? Do his parents give lots of money to the school? Has he saved somebody from drowning?

I truly hope he isn't a creep, though. It does sound like he was pretty forward with you--and that you didn't like that. Maybe your instincts are "dead on."

I agree with Fnord, I think that it might be out of admiration and not for anything else.

I don't really know what he does that makes him so popular. I have heard about how he tries to get lots of girls by purposely giving them exaggerated compliments to flatter them, and I know its true cuz when he was coming on to me, I looked on his Facebook wall and found that he said the exact same things about other girls in his public status updates, and I rejected him cuz I didn't want to fall for a "player type" or someone who will take any girl he can get.

He has a girlfriend now, and everyone says that he doesn't really want or care about her cuz he will just take anyone he can get.

This should be obvious, but one sure way to become popular is to spread compliments around like birdseed, no matter how shallow or insincere those compliments may be.

Another is to always look cheerful.

Put these both together, and you have a sure-fire way to be popular that doesn't not involve either money or sex.

I've tried the above approach, and was eminently unsuccessful.

When I started to "be myself," I became more successful.

Perhaps this is because of my 5 foot 4.75 inch frame? LOL