Got laughed at again, for no reason

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So I was sitting in an ordinary restaurant, with my boyfriend, waiting for our meals to come. My boyfriend then got up to go to the toilet, and I just carried on sitting there, sipping a glass of coke. I then caught sight of two young women who looked around my age, sitting on the table next to me, and what it looked like they were whispering something about me and were laughing and staring for ages. I knew they couldn't have been laughing at anything behind me because there was only a wall behind me, so I knew it was at me. I wasn't doing anything to get that kind of attention, just sitting there sipping a glass of coke. No I don't rock backwards and forwards or do any other odd things like that. I was just sitting like a normal person, doing nothing out of the ordinary, and it wasn't to do with what I was wearing either because I know how to dress to blend in.

I haven't had strangers laughing at me for about three years, and anyway everyone who I have caught laughing at me has always been women around my age. I used to be laughed at by teenagers but not for a long time now. It just seems to be girls in their early 20's. I felt upset after that because I'm scared my boyfriend and my friends and his friends and family might not want to be around me if I get laughed at like this. There must be something wrong if I get girls snickering at me like that, and it really hurts. I thought those days were over, as I know how to act normal. I am slim and not ugly but not like really really beautiful, just averagely attractive, a bit like those girls that laughed at me were. They were slim too, with long hair, same sort of clothes style as me, and just averagely attractive, so it's not like they were much different from me. I just get so upset when this happens. Nobody likes being laughed at, even the most confident types, and I would have thought that it would be an NT standard not to laugh at random people in their eye/ear shot. I really felt like beating the s**t out of the little c***s but then I would be showing myself up, and I would never want to fight while having a boyfriend, it's not really lady-like. But I did imagine it in my head.

I can't see you did anything to draw their attention to you. Maybe they recognized you from school and that was the reason they snickered. If it had been me in your situation, I would have waited for my boyfriend to return from the toilet and then left the restaurant immediately. Life's too short to get upset over the antics of two idiots who have nothing better to do than snicker at strangers.

that happened once to a friend, we were at a party and a pair of girls was laughing at her. She faced them, I couldn't hear what she told them, but after that they looked ashamed and stop laughing.

I don't think the girls knew me from anywhere, as this was over 80 miles away from my local town. We were halfway through traveling back home and so had stopped at a restaurant at a service station to get something to eat.

Since I have been taking antidepressants I have been more able to look relaxed and more confident, so I can hide my AS even better than I could before, and just come across as an NT. But when situations like this suddenly happen out of the blue, I start feeling self conscious inside and it sometimes knocks my confidence. It's something I don't need to happen to me, as I'm doing so well.

I don't have poor hygiene, before someone points that out. I like to keep clean and well groomed.

I told my boyfriend about it when he got back from the toilet, but he said not to worry and all that, but this sort of thing does get to me. I wouldn't feel so upset if I had been wearing a funny hat or something, but when girls just laugh for no apparent reason, that's when I feel upset.

Ok, although it was quite clear to me that they were laughing at me, I also know how paranoid I can feel inside and some of these things can be my imagination. I was 9 out of 10 sure that they were laughing, but the thought of that very small chance that they might have just been staring in my direction and whispering and laughing about something else did make me resist confronting them. Also I'm not a battle axe and neither is my boyfriend.