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anybody good at understanding the ques of this, people seem to do it just before people have gotten to the point in a sentance and its really confussing me alot. im tryying to tell people things and they are all like; yeah, right, okay sure, before i've even gotten to the point! argggggggghhhhhhhhh

anyone? it's driving me into a pit of despair and isolation

Discounting everything you're trying to say is a subtle form of bullying. They are giving you the cue that nothing you say matters to them. Sorry about that.... of course it's making you feel bad.

Sometimes people do this if the speaker takes a painfully long time to get to the point. Some aspies can be especially bad about including lots of nonessential detail when telling a story, for example.

its not just me they seem to do it with everyone, and it's so confussing, they'll be like "i'm going to go to the-" "YEAH" "-bathroom"
it's really confussing because it's like they almost get to the end of what they are sayying or before they get to the point and someone steps in with a yeah out of the blue...
someone told me the implied meanings of the yeah being a sign of encouragement for the speaker to continue talking are what is happening, but aspies and implied meanings can be confussed???