Who here has given up on a social life?

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Gave up during school when my first year i started making friends/acquaintances and couple years later our interests threw each other apart and stopped hanging out with anyone. At that point until year 10/11 and sixth form I had been able to stay indoors use the computers hanging out with few people somewhat within school grounds not outside school and probably only had one proper friend but not close enough to be best friend. At college I met students who wouldn't care about work and chat all the time and they would suffer the low grades for not paying attention to lectures and those who cared about the work I sort of helped them with assignments or they help me and i got top grades probably cos i didnt talk alot and spent more time in lunch to work. Then in university social skills are a necessity, i didn't blend in with my groups, I had an area i was confident i'd be good in and they put me in a different area because they wanted it more, in hindsight if I had made a friend or 2 at the start I would have succeeded and been able to work together so a social life would be advantageous in higher education.

I find offline life socialization to be overwhelming. I manage to talk to two friends on an erratic basis... both are okay with this as they are busy anyway. A few times a year is usually more than acceptable with them. It is fair to note, I do have a spouse and grown children who do not live at home any more. I interact with the children on a regular basis (oh, college kids raiding my fridge), daily with the spouse. He is home at night. Yeah, it is not that I have given up, it is more like I am at a place in life where I do not want to deal with that. I do not seem to have it in me.

I never have fitted in. I don't know how to join in on a conversation and I find what most NT's talk about to be boring.

Recently, I had 2 friends but one's a raging alcoholic and no good for me and the other stabbed me in the back.

I've always preferred my own company, even when I was little and am about to move into a new (unknown location) place. I won't be telling anyone where I'll be living.

I'm looking forward to living alone again. I don't want or need a social life.

Do any of you who have given up use anonymous social networks?

It functions like a social network.

But it's a forum--which, perhaps, has less "features" than a "social network" like Facebook.

I would say I'm less interested in a social life now than I've ever been, and I'm comfortable with that.

There have been other times in my life, when I was younger, that I felt acutely lonely and desperately wanted friends and a social life. Some of those times I never achieved it, other times I did achieve something approximating it -- I say approximating because most of the "friendships" didn't stick.

These days I find that I'm not interested and yet people have actually inserted themselves into my life, rather than me actively wanting new friends. It's that ironic thing of "when you stop looking, it happens." Except I'm not 100% thrilled. I need a LOT of alone time and to be honest I'm not getting enough of it.

It's just my luck that when I've actively wanted a social life, it was hard to find, and now that I want everyone to leave me alone, nobody is leaving me alone.

As for more than friends, again, I used to want a partner, but now I'm relieved to find that I give a sh!t less and less and less. I think that's a lot to do with fading hormones. It's great!

I wish it were as easy as not looking for me. My periods of not looking are just periods of solitude and personal growth before I start to get lonely, followed by a train of failures and a plummet.

I gave up on social life just right after my last in-real life best friend from school no longer goes to the same school with me (2008). After the nasty experiences during her absence, I completely gave up and went online instead.

Right now, I'm not exactly interested or uninterested. I never thought about it at all because I'm simply satisfied this way.

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I don't really make friends and sometimes I care, sometimes not.

People do not like me.