Being Forced to Socialize

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I have been forced to socialize. People keep on trying to explain to me that I need to do it because they don't want me to be totally lost when I go to college. Also, they for some reason think I want to avoid all social interaction. That is not true; if it is truly necessary, I would do it if I'm doing emotionally well.

I have gotten forced into making commitments because of this. I have gotten into situations in which I had to break those promises. One time, I promised to socialize at any opportunity because I was convinced that would be good for me. However, I ended up being seriously drained after doing it for a while.

They often say socializing will become more comfortable for me after doing it a lot, but when I made that commitment, I never became more comfortable doing it.

This one of the things that is responsible for my low self-esteem. What they are doing makes me feel like there is no place for me in society, as I am nonconformist (though that part has been resolved) and am extremely introverted. Ironically, that makes me want to avoid social interaction even when I have to, which isn't the case when I'm not dealing with issues like this.

I'm not sure how to explain to them that forcing me to socialize is creating problems.

You could simply say, "forcing me to socialize is creating problems for me." Although I doubt that anyone is literally forcing you.

They aren't wrong...!

You do need to learn how to network at the very least by the time you declare a major.

In situations like those, I just refuse and ignore to the best of my abilities. There is no point in faking things like if I want to socialize or not. There are ways to get by without talking to people. In fact, the times I do socialize I realize that is was a huge waste of time and effort, as well as sometimes I end up either doing stuff for others or somehow getting screwed over in/by some sort of deal.

I highly recommend not socializing if possible.