His impression of me?

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I was my local bar recently and I started talking to this guy I recognise who came over to talk to me and my friend. When he came over to talk I said to him "I know your grandmother called Janice she used to babysit me when i was younger and I knew your sister Charlotte as well"

While making those comments to him he seemed quite suprised I think? (Not always good at reading human emotions.).

His response to the comments I made "that's a weird way to introduce yourself"" he then got on with his buissness and did not speak to me at all after that.

Judging by that encounter what do you think his impression of me was?

I have seen him a fair few times at the bar before and he would often take a quick glance at me.

Sounds like he was being rude for no reason. I cant see anything wrong with what you said.

Probably cause you talked to fast and said too much too quickly. You probably should have said it more relaxed. I'm always getting reactions like that when I try and talk to people.

I don't know. Lol


Pssh, that would be my reaction

It sounds like your eidetic memory got the best of him along with going into every detail and he didn't quite know how to respond. I do agree that he was quite rude to talk to you like that.

After he left how did he make you feel?

How did he make me feel?

Slightly awkward

I've run into people with similar quirks before myself where I think I am saying something normal and the person seems to get an attitude and walk away making me feel awkward. I don't think you did anything wrong. This is a person issue with him and no you. I wouldn't worry about him. Just ignore him and enjoy the company of your own friends. If he comes up again say a simple "Hi" then don't say much at all.

I was in a similar situation myself about 5 years ago. I had attended a ball that raises money for individuals with autism to get services and supports. I had gone before and the executive director was wearing a dress that I liked. Three years later she lent the dress to her friend who she went to college with. I brought it up to the director and she got mad and said "That's not appropriate you can say nice dress but that's it." She got an attitude and stormed off in front of her friends. She also tattled on me to my behaviorist who also attended.

You probably forgot the niceties. People seems to expect that you say hello, hi or the equivalent first.

I think it is like that in many cultures. One culture that I find a bit extreme is the Swahili (language and "culture" in East Africa, mainly Tanzania). Any conversation starts with "how are you" which has to be answered (in a positive way). Then you continue to ask about "How is your day/morning/evening", How is the children etc.

This have to be repeated two or three times with variations before anybody even thinks about starting a proper conversation. It is just a script.
I guess it holds true for a lot of other societies as well - you have to do the smalltalk first.

Besides that, he seems to have behaved quite rude.