Desperate call

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Okay, I feel bad about making this thread. But I want to ask if anybody else feels so desperately alone? I don't have any friends. I don't even know how to hold a consistent friendly relationship with another person. I can't stand being alone any more and I need somebody to speak to. I think I'm actually a fairly fun, attractive person; I enjoy expressing myself, joking. Communicating.

I spoke to a lady perhaps half a year back, she was friendly but completely disappeared suddenly, and I still haven't gotten over that. I don't understand how people can do that. A large part of me hates everybody still, and not just because of that.

If anybody wants to be my friend then please add me at https://www.facebook.com/almajo88 and help to stop my living nightmare.

Thank you all, I love every one of you.

Alex

You seem like a nice guy.

You'll make more friends soon.

Sorry about that woman who disappeared.

My advice would be if you enjoy reading (or if you can at least suffer through it), try to get hold of some books by Temple Grandin. I would recommend the one she co-wrote with Sean Barron about Social Relationships for people on the spectrum (the name escapes me at the moment). Also "The Way I See it" is good. Check your local library--if they don't have them they may be able to get them on an inter-library loan. As you read, specifically concentrate on the parts about making friends. ASD individuals make friends differently than NTs; i know i went through a lot of rejections (and still do at times) trying to make friends like an NT. Dr. Grandin says that people with autism need to make friends through shared activities and capitalizing on our strengths--such as if you are good at racing R.C. cars, join a club where you can meet with others who share your interests. You then gain respect when you are good in your hobby or chosen field and it goes a long way toward helping people accept your social challenges. I have used this approach with my aspie kiddo although he is young and oblivious toward most social rejections unless they are really obvious. He cannot play team sports, but he is excellent on the piano and has earned respect and compliments from this. For myself, the general population of the world finds my interest in and knowledge of local history intriguing but not particularly interesting in conversation. However, when i was offered a job at a local history center, I found I love it and am surrounded by people who enjoy the same thing. One elderly lady I am completely convinced is an undiagnosed aspie and she too finds a lot of joy in her work there. Hope this is helpful, i wish you the best.

I've been lonely for most of my life without really knowing why. I have a loving family and several close friends, yet I'm still lonely almost every day. It's kind of frustrating.

Don't know much about you but these are my suggestions/observations:

You cant choose your family but you can choose your friends, why would anyone choose a depressing or sad friend? When you are meeting new people only show your positive side. Dont shy away from your passions: "I love writing,I am currently writing a story and have wrote 35000 words, closing in on Lord Of the Rings!" shows alot of passion; "I am currently watching Gotham, The Flash, (anime name) and Game of Thrones. I love these fantastic worlds and bizarre situations, what are you watching?" find some common ground.

You say you are a "fairly fun, attractive person; I enjoy expressing myself, joking. Communicating" type of person, perhaps it is time to demonstrate that to others, have you tried meetup.com, go to a few card games and events and don't expect everything to fall your way on first attempt. You may just find some friends yet.

Good Luck!