Any signs for when someone actually cares about you?

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Hi, I was wondering if anyone had had successfull relationship / friendships with NT's and found out how they showed it? This is a thing I find very hard, people have so many odd expressions I can't figure out & I usually assume there's something negative. I thought if I got a 'pat' against my shoulder then we would be like best friends, bcus I used to be quite naive. I have a few friends but don't see them so often. I often feel lured into conversations only for them to say "we were just being polite". So if anyone know how they show love / care / concern, i'd be happy to hear it

repeatedly inviting you to do stuff with them.

hugs are generally a good sign (usually when the situation has progressed more)

I have this problem too. Sometimes I can't tell when they are just being nice, or really want to be around me.

I've learned that if they are an adult, and they invite me somewhere, they probably want me around.
It's different for kids because parents can be like "why don't you be nice and invite poor Johnny for dinner" or whatever. But adults know they don't have to be around anyone they don't like.

Also if someone laughs at your jokes, that's huge. That's how I really got convinced my bf likes me. I was always the one who laughed at my jokes the loudest, til he came around.

If someone pats you on the back, it usually means the person likes you quite a bit.

It might mean the person is trying to calm you down--though it usually doesn't mean that.

Thanks all.. No invitations (for a long time), and I guess I can't invite myself tried to drop hints though, but no. They do laugh at my jokes yes.

You have to keep in mind, what might be a sign of affection or caring for one person, might have no meaning to another.

Some people express their value of another person in compliments, others do in touching, or bringing over food when invited over. But some might not receive the act of bringing food or gifts as a sign they are important.

So when it comes to showing other people that they are important to you, do what feels natural. When it comes to figuring out if other people value you, focus on what words or actions they did that seem positive. The negative signs, or signs against you, may speak louder because human beings are wired and primed to detect threats more than nice things.