Is this considered offensive?

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Other people comment how thin I am.

It it offensive to comment on someone being thin? I feel it is. It is considered offensive to say someone is overweight.

Am I too sensitive to these comments?

I think it's rude to comment on anyone's weight, fat or thin. If it's rude to make a comment how big someone has gotten or how big they are, it should be rude to comment how small someone is or tiny or how thin they are.

If you're a guy, it might be offensive, but it probably depends on the context. Friends bug each other about that kind of thing, so they might just be teasing you. It could be seen as a good or bad thing for a guy.
If you're a girl it might be a compliment, since a lot of people think females are supposed to be as thin as they can be.

Perhaps, but that boundary can be crossed with females as well. I have friend that is super thin and people teased her about her small frame and eventually it turned into cruel words like anorexic and the like.

I think it's a case of a lot of subtle details to how it's said, and who is saying it. It's probably a good topic to avoid if you're not very good at that.

It's called "bodyshaming" or "thinness shaming." And yes it's offensive. Tell them to stop body shaming you.

I sometimes get comments about my thin-ness. Whilst I don't find it offensive, it can be a bit annoying. I think a lot of people tend to notice the fact that I am thin because being fat is such a norm here.

Could it be that people are so used to being fat that you (a thin person) look quite unusual to them?

Which is obviously gonna add fuel to the fire, as OP will be admitting that this is a vulnerable spot for them to attack him in, which the majority of "shamers" of course will do without a hassle.

if you find it offensive then YES it is offensive.
in general it is not a respectable thing to comment on, but there can be situations where its ok when people are close to each other and it has been established that it is ok.
"other people" don't seem to have established this with you lol, so screw them.

and just as a side note i really don't think it makes it less offensive if you identify as a female. sure, i understand the context as to why it may seem like a compliment or something to be exalted, but that just further pushes the idea that being thin is important, which is equally as detrimental as if it were being said in a "negative" way.

I think that if you make this kind of comment to someone you don't really know, it could be construed as being rude. But if the person knows you well and is saying something out of concern for you, then I would say no.

My mentality is if you have to wonder if it is offensive or not, it isn't, or at least shouldn't be.

It is tough to say. That is why I ask. Sometimes I think I am too sensitive.

The context of the comment was how much I should eat at a dinner we were having. Not sure if that matters or not.

Keep in mind you are on a site for autistic people, but honestly I would say eat how ever much or little you want. I mean if you are really worried google what a good weight is for someone your age and height. If you are really skinny and are below the weight average or whatever, then you probably need to eat more.