How do I make friends at my mosque?

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A lot of the guys there hate me, and the rest I have nothing in common with and talking leads nowhere... as for the girls, many of them (though they may be lying) say they're forbidden from talking to boys, others are scared of me or hate my guts, others are too young, and others hang out in groups so when I try talking to one of them they feel they can ignore me, and others I can't talk to that much because the mosque has separate sections for men and women. The closest I got to talking to a boy was with a little 8 year old boy (I'm 16, and also a guy.) I can't make friends at school because I only have 4 classmates, and one is dropping out/always sleeps or storms off, and the others are problem students and are not friend material either because we have absolutely nothing to talk about. What do I do?

hmm that's tough.
why do a lot of the guys hate you? it could be that you perceive them as hating you but they really don't, maybe they just misunderstand you or think you're unapproachable or even think that you don't like them.

i think the best way to begin to connect with someone is just by asking a simple question that shows you are interested in them. for example, maybe someone answers a question during class in an intriguing way and you ask them about it afterwards. is there a person who you're interested in more than others?

as far as the people you say are not friend material because there is nothing to talk about with them, i think its possible that you are judging them prematurely. people are dimensional, and even if you dislike them, you can still make connections with them which can make you feel less isolated.

I could never make friends at synagogue and various Jewish groups. From what I've gathered about meeting with people in a setting like this, you must "conform". This probably goes to all religious gatherings. Please don't let that get in the way of your spirituality because I let that happen to me for a while......but I'm just a dirty Jew. But I do know under Islamic law and Jewish(religious) customs, it is FORBIDDEN to communicate to the other gender in any house of G-D/Allah. You can try finding a network with other Aspies, but that and religion doesn't get along....like Muslims and Jews(joking)

If you really want to make friends in a mosque, then you should never praise or promote violent acts of known terrorist organizations, especially those led and populated by Muslim extremists.

Most of the Muslims I know personally came to the USA to get away from the organized religious hatred in their former homelands, and they will not tolerate anyone who praises or promotes violent acts of known terrorist organizations, especially in a mosque.

WHOA! I'm pretty sure your not a psychopath and are just trying to fit in within your community

Just don't be so hyper all the time. Calm down. Listen to what others have to say. Don't talk to any girls in the mosque itself.