I think I'm just done for now

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I have reevaluated my priorities I guess lately, and I am so done with trying to be anything more than acquaintances with people over the internet. It has never been an overall positive experience and I just don't need that in my life when I could be doing so many more important things like developing myself in a number of ways. It ends of either being a waste of time that doesn't approximate a real friendship at all, other times people can just take advantage of your willingness to be their friend. And "online relationships", those are the most dangerous of all, especially sense they're so tempting sometimes, but also a surefire way to expose yourself to being hurt.

I don't really want to try and make irl friends now either for a few reasons, but at least I can study and improve my skills involving my interests, and maybe try to be more spiritual and physically active too. I would rather do that than waste my time pretending to be someone's friend.

edit: I should have posted this in the "making friends" topic, could a mod please move it?

Yeah...maybe that's a good idea

Unless...somebody really wants to be your friend--without seeking to use you in some way.

ugh, I just don't know really, theoretically you could become really good friends with someone over the internet, but I've never had that last. I always realize that the person is totally different than I thought, or it just fizzles out on one way or another. I really shouldn't go around announcing decisions about things I feel ambivalent about still.

also: yay, it got moved

I feel your frustration man. I came here with the intent of meeting some people in REAL life and make some friends or start meetup groups. Either no one is around my area or no one wants to have actual friendship that involves face to face interaction, which I need or I'm going to go insane and blow my brains out.

I can't handle this isolation and I know there are people on here I could befriend easily but no one seems to want to step up to plate. I'm practically pleading for someone to do so on the forums with no avail.

i have never been interested in cultivating friends. to me it seems like a chore and an imposition to be beset with friends.

friends need to be petted like dogs when they want it and it is regardless of what i am otherwise attending to. they feel disgruntled if they are ignored. they feel rejected, but it is their problem if they do not like themselves enough to enjoy their own company as far as i can see, but they do not see it that way.
friends need to be serviced like a car by regularly doing things that they require that i do not natively enjoy. they need you not to shut them out when you do not want them around.
it is too much of an obligation for me. i like to be free to do as i please when i please, and one can not do so whilst saddled with friends.
i do like a quick few words in passing to all and sundry, but a quick few words are quite sufficient for me. any more and i start to feel bothered and bogged down.

I gave up on the idea of trying to make friends outside the internet. I realized the only reason I tried wasn't because it's what I wanted, but because it's what I though as normal. Every time I go out to social places, I just fill with anxiety and end up extremely drained. But I really enjoy hanging out (over the internet, not in person) with my online friends. Mostly I meet them on different games and forums like this. They're a lot less judgmental, and because most of the time, it's over faceless voice calls or text based messaging, there's, at least for me, a lot less stress. Now that I've fully realized this, I don't put much effort into making offline friends and the need to socialize is filled by my online friends. It's honestly made a huge impact on my stress levels. I still maintain healthy professional relationships with co-workers, but I don't do anything with them outside of work. But I'm a lot happier now that I realized the only reason I tried to be social offline was some want to be normal, more than likely a left-over want from my school days.